I'm a little unclear, may I ask exactly what is problem was?
His main issue was he was a 2 pump chump. He didn't start out that way.
He tried to blame me "oh, your noises just turned me on too much" and/or "from the way you were moaning, I thought you orgasmed" being a reasonable person I then asked him "okay then, before you come you need to check with me, see where I am at" after that it became clear it was his problem, he just couldn't hold back.
I just gently talked to him about it and asked him to look into things that could help him. He said he would and he didn't.
I asked him to get Viagra. he eventually made the appointment and saw the doctor and then came home and yelled at me because he had to get a rectal exam.
Even when he got the Viagra and I would suggest to him that maybe it was time to have some fun he wouldn't take the Viagra until just before he hopped into bed naked. and without enough time for the Viagra to work he would still be a two-pump chump.
The entirety of the scenario was aggravating. It took him over a year to get the Viagra and during that year I was just so resentful that he wasn't being a man and handling the situation
Planning was never his strong suit, still isn't