Long time since I've been on this board, doing a lot of field stuff. Anyways, I've come to the conclusion that as far as I go, I can get a girl in bed, but apparently I have trouble getting into any LTR with them. I think my biggest problem has been that when a girl asks me the whole "where do we stand" question, I get sort of freaked out and don't want to sort of give into what seems like the power struggle and and sort of give some cryptic answer and just try to wait for her to give in first, which doesn't seem to work out well. For all you LTR masters, what do you do when you transition from sex to LTR? I suck at it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sex but no LTR
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Do not give them a straight answer. When any girl ask me any question like that I look into their eyes and use "you'll see" or "you will find out in time". It drives them crazy and they come with "what does that mean?" and just stare into their eyes. This way you could continue on in the relationship as YOU want with no bars. Truth is no one wants to be held down or felt obligated that they must do this or that because they are someones gf or bf. Just use those lines and play your cards how you want to,not off a fixed deck.
resilient
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Just don't be stupid like me in my last relationship where I said something along the lines of "I can't be in this relationship having sex with you if I know I'm not the only one sleeping in your bed." It had nice needy desperate guy writen all over that sentence. If she knew I had other options she would be fighting to keep me in her bed possibly.
I think I could have kept tapping that if I hadn't forced her to a decision to dump me because I was looking for exclusivity instead of letting her make up her mind naturally instead of being pressured to. I'm learning to trust the DJ bible and its values will uphold my respect as a man and to never ask for exclusivity again -- she has to ask me.
I like someone's signature quote on this board "A man is only as desperate as his options are."
I think I could have kept tapping that if I hadn't forced her to a decision to dump me because I was looking for exclusivity instead of letting her make up her mind naturally instead of being pressured to. I'm learning to trust the DJ bible and its values will uphold my respect as a man and to never ask for exclusivity again -- she has to ask me.
I like someone's signature quote on this board "A man is only as desperate as his options are."
MightyMate
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I also had this probklem. It was easy for me to get # or even **** many woman. But not to have LTR. Maybe i didnt want LTR with em donno. Anyways now im fine.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.