"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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setting up dates- protocols?

thebiglimp

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im just wondering if this is the norm. for me it's always the girls telling me we should meet again and setting up the next date. this always comes up during conversation on first meetings and i'm never the one to initiate the talk. of course it's always in a respectful and friendly way the subject is handled, but i'm still wondering-

-is it usually the female who initiates the next date?
-can the guy do the same on the first meet?

i dunno. could be that it's just the personalities that i come across since all of them have been ex-pat english teachers here in korea; outgoing, extrovert types.

on a related note the same thing happened today but i counter offered which was rejected. she was like, we're gonna go to a museum then party afterwards, you wanna come with us? and i said i don't like museums and only wanna show up for the party, to which she was sorta 'meh' and in the end, i did not get invited to the party. haha.
granted her interest level was not that high, but did i have to go to the museum first??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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old_skoolr

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Men lead, women follow.

Its your responsibility as a male to initiate anything and everything.
 
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