"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

setting up dates- protocols?

thebiglimp

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2014
Messages
65
Reaction score
1
im just wondering if this is the norm. for me it's always the girls telling me we should meet again and setting up the next date. this always comes up during conversation on first meetings and i'm never the one to initiate the talk. of course it's always in a respectful and friendly way the subject is handled, but i'm still wondering-

-is it usually the female who initiates the next date?
-can the guy do the same on the first meet?

i dunno. could be that it's just the personalities that i come across since all of them have been ex-pat english teachers here in korea; outgoing, extrovert types.

on a related note the same thing happened today but i counter offered which was rejected. she was like, we're gonna go to a museum then party afterwards, you wanna come with us? and i said i don't like museums and only wanna show up for the party, to which she was sorta 'meh' and in the end, i did not get invited to the party. haha.
granted her interest level was not that high, but did i have to go to the museum first??
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

old_skoolr

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 8, 2011
Messages
637
Reaction score
241
Location
Melbourne
Men lead, women follow.

Its your responsibility as a male to initiate anything and everything.
 
Top