"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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serious vs funny

frank05

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Are you most or the time serious or most of the time laughing?
I'm naturally a very ****y and funny guy. I can find a ****y comment for every random situation. But sometimes I come myself as goofy. Think of Stiffler in American pie. I've developed his same energetic,****y and goofy character. I mean I can keep a woman laughing all the time, but when I do this I laugh myself,too, and my voice tone and posture get messed up.
Although I'm having moderate success with this, I'm thinking of changing my behavior
Lately I've thought that it would better to be more calm, relaxed,talking without laughing or smiling too often and throwing a ****y and funny comment once in a while and in the correct times. Something more in the direction of James Bond's character. Have you tried both ways? Which behavior has given you more success with women and generally in all situations?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm not absolutely positive, but what worked with this one girl was that earlier in the night, when we're out doing things, whatever, i'm mostly c+f, throw some serious conversation in, but still mainly just try to have fun.

as it gets later, start being more serious, with a little bit of funniness to spice things up.
 

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You got to have the right balance between the two.
 

Sexual

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Originally posted by Dukester
i be myself, and that is a huge success
I agree and say don't worry about it. I tried doing that and sometimes I would still come off as my ****y/funny self while being serious and the female would take offense, lol. I'm still suffering the side effects with my girlfriend.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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