"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Serious advice needed.............

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8ball

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Guys.. I need some serious advice...

I've been dating this woman for 6 months. I love her. She makes me happier than anybody ever has. I know in my bones that if I were to marry her , she would make me very happy.

However..I have a son and an ex-wife. My ex and I didn't really get along that well but I'm thinking that's mainly b/c I was a drunk and a fuk up. I'm past that now. I could probably get along w/ her now.

Here's the dilemma, and it's really messing me up: Do I try ( again ) w/ the ex..to make it work and have a happy family for my son..or do I go w/ the woman that I KNOW would make me happy and have my son grow up in a 'step' household, etc???

I have no idea what to do....???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MR_PERFECT

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If your son is raised in a household where the parents don't love each other, he will know. You never stay married for the kids, that's the worst thing you could do. Your unhappiness will grow through the house like a cancer.

You have to make sure you're over the ex before moving on to the new girl.
 
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I concur.
 
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CLOONEY

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Dont just get back with the X because of your son, and because you THINK it could work because before you were a "drunk and a fuk up"!. If you KNOW the new woman can make you happy, and you are happy with her. Marry her. Quite simple really, dont make this harder for yourself.

Good luck champ. Glad you found the right woman.
 
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If she can love you, this new one, she can love your son, because she will see your face each time she looks at him. If your new household will be happy, and a good place to live. Then it will be a good place for your son. The danger of going back to the ex is going back to your old ways, and you don't want that. Plus you'll be caught wondering what could have been with this woman who has made you happy. Stay the course.

-Grey Fox
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I believe that if you do what is best for you, that is what will be best for your son.
 
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Originally posted by Big Pappy
I believe that if you do what is best for you, that is what will be best for your son.
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I agree
 
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If you're even thinking about leaving the new woman just to be with another one, I dont' think it will work out either way.
 
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