"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sensual/date music
- Thread starter brod716
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jean Paul
Don Juan
Etta James - I just want to make love to you
[This message has been edited by Jean Paul (edited 04-14-2002).]
Zip Thack
Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
gunslinger
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DIESEL
Master Don Juan
go with the old school as mentioned above..
Kruder/ Dorfmeister
Tosca
Peace Orchestra
Antonio Carlos Jobim
Astrud Gilberto
Ella Fitzgerald
Sam Cooke
some Jamiroquai remixes are good too..
this will set you apart - very cool, sophisticated, and most importantly not cliched or played out.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Spermvader
Don Juan
Don-Wan Kenobi
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Someone mentioned Miles. How bout' Chet Baker?
DWK
Chunking2399
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remy shan
red house painters
Enrique Iglesias
764-hero
ZeeBee
Portishead
Elbow
Coldplay
Dntel (Experimental)
Future Bible Hero's (not what you think just a name)
Mandalay
morcheeba
modest mouse
Pale saints
pixies
radiohead
Don Napolitano
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Freewill
Don Juan
David DeAngelo recommended that I play Hip Hop and Disco when I'm with a girl, though, so I guess it all depends. Sade is very nice.
FW
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No, his mind is not for rent
To any god or government
Always hopeful yet discontent
He knows changes aren't permanent
--Rush "Tom Sawyer"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't get me wrong, Miles is probally the most incredible musician of the century.
Girls hate him though. I've never met a girl who could listen to Pharaoh's Dance or *****'s Brew.
Maybe his earlier stuff would work. Stay away from the fusion. Sketches of Spain might also be too much for a girl...remember, it has to be real simple for them.
TheRockStar
Senior Don Juan
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Got a drum life?
"No little perv bull**** is gonna work with this one, you gotta play it smooth, be Don Juan de la Nootch"- Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back.
DIESEL
Master Don Juan
peace,
D
about the Miles - everything before *****es Brew should be OK - to be totally safe just stick with everything up to and including "Kind of Blue' everything he did with the first great quintet is real money as far as the ladies go.
peace,
D
Naoko's skin becomes a mean electric
we let it roll on through forty seven minutes of Pharoah's Dance and *****'s Brew
she asked me to buy some acid off my friends
I said there is no need
Miles can suck you and soak you
flutter and funk you
in the morning, her skin is no longer electric, but cool like a captured and bottled breeze
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.