"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sending her a card... a romantic gesture?

mecca411

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I had planned to get together with my longdistance girlfriend this weekend, but found out last night that I have to be out of town. I called her a told her what was up and she understood, but I could tell she was dissapointed since she had been looking forward to it all week. She also had Monday off work so she would've been able to come to my place for a bit longer.

I thought I'd send her a little "I miss you card" in the mail and write a few nice things. I know she loves romantic gestures. What do you think of this idea? I'll be able to see her next weekend, but I'd like her to get the card before then so I think I'll send it express mail instead of regular mail. Think this is a good idea?

M.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Raptor

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Yeah a card wouldn't hurt or at least i dont think it would. Depending on how close you guys are maybe have a rose stuck in the box and send it express. If its a new relationship hold the rose.
 

biker_gixxer

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Go for it...
 

Desdinova

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First of all, I can't believe how gung-ho you are about romantic gestures. If I were to send every woman I dated a card for everytime I couldn't get together with them, I'd be out a couple hundred bucks.

I can't stress this enough: Romance is a spice, not the main course. Quit drowning out the flavor of your relationship in spice. Also, not every part of your relationship needs spice. You're already giving her the gift of missing you. That will be enough.

In the two years I've been with my woman, aside from holidays, I've only bought her one thing because I was thinking of her.
 

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Prerequisites for sending a card:
1. Dated her for at least 3 months
2. Make it unpredictable
3. Be unique

After you send it, no more romantic gestures or talk for a while. Keep her guessing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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