"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sending her a card... a romantic gesture?

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I had planned to get together with my longdistance girlfriend this weekend, but found out last night that I have to be out of town. I called her a told her what was up and she understood, but I could tell she was dissapointed since she had been looking forward to it all week. She also had Monday off work so she would've been able to come to my place for a bit longer.

I thought I'd send her a little "I miss you card" in the mail and write a few nice things. I know she loves romantic gestures. What do you think of this idea? I'll be able to see her next weekend, but I'd like her to get the card before then so I think I'll send it express mail instead of regular mail. Think this is a good idea?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah a card wouldn't hurt or at least i dont think it would. Depending on how close you guys are maybe have a rose stuck in the box and send it express. If its a new relationship hold the rose.
 
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Go for it...
 
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First of all, I can't believe how gung-ho you are about romantic gestures. If I were to send every woman I dated a card for everytime I couldn't get together with them, I'd be out a couple hundred bucks.

I can't stress this enough: Romance is a spice, not the main course. Quit drowning out the flavor of your relationship in spice. Also, not every part of your relationship needs spice. You're already giving her the gift of missing you. That will be enough.

In the two years I've been with my woman, aside from holidays, I've only bought her one thing because I was thinking of her.
 
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Prerequisites for sending a card:
1. Dated her for at least 3 months
2. Make it unpredictable
3. Be unique

After you send it, no more romantic gestures or talk for a while. Keep her guessing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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