"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Self talk and inner game

sosilky

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I think I'm starting to see the results of positive self talk. Like Pook says you are what you think. Visualize your goal train your sub concsious with affirmations etc. etc. I would just like to play devils advocate for a second to see peoples reactions. is it possible with these techniques you could be setting yourself up for dsapointment?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Snow Plowman

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always think positive, always assume the best...

No reason to think negative...back in 07 I had some real delusional beliefs that helped me a lot...but you must not be affected when your wrong...

If anything...don't be negative...I got blown out in 90% of my sets all last week...
 

sosilky

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Snow Plowman said:
always think positive, always assume the best...

No reason to think negative...back in 07 I had some real delusional beliefs that helped me a lot...but you must not be affected when your wrong...

If anything...don't be negative...I got blown out in 90% of my sets all last week...
blown out? what does that mean?
 

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the point is, don't turn negative when there is a setback, being positive comes pritty much down to my signature,

There are no problems, only challenges
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Remember, there is Self Confidence, and then there is Self DELUSION.
Your 'gut' will usually keep you in 'check'.

That is why you need to build Authentic Self Esteem and teach your Body that it IS "confident" and that IT CAN 'handle this".
Otherwise, it won't believe you, and hold you back.

It's acually a mechanism of the primal brain. It is used to help keep people in certain social hierarchys.

But in modern societys may Social Staus 'cliques' and 'leagues' be DAMNED.

Rise above that idiocy, self importance, and delusion.


All 'status' and social cliques are fleeting and constantly changing.

If you base your identity and self worth on temporary and ultimately, superficial standards, you will be wasting your time and precious life energy...

Things are reallyu not 'good' or 'bad', it is ALL about how YOU 'react' or preferably, RESPOND to them.

Every challenge you face, you must learn to look at as an opportunity to grow and improve, and build authentic self esteem. No one can ever take that away from you.

We are often our own worst enemy.

Most people do NOT think that badly of us.
In fact, for some of us, people think very highly of us, and are actually interested in ourselves, our well being and peace of mind.
Can you believe that?

You can only bring that into your life if you build Self Esteem,and pursue the road to High Character.

When you do, only those people will be in your social circle.
It may not be huge, but they will be quality people. All who support you in some way.
This gives you more inspiration to be the best Man you can be.
Consistenly improving, learning, growing, evolving.


Sometimes we have to realize that what we think is a problem, actually isn't.

And sometimes when we think we NEED to have a solution, all we may really need to do is sit still, be quiet, and listen.....

There isn't always negative self talk, if you make an effort to 'quiet' your mind,and stop the incessant over analyzation and chatter...
 

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Sir I said:
the point is, don't turn negative when there is a setback, being positive comes pritty much down to my signature,

There are no problems, only challenges
This i will take to my grave, well said!
 

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With a positive mindframe nothing is impossible, and with a negative mindframe everything is impossible. Everything you do in your life is just a state of mind and concentration.
 
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