I think I'm starting to see the results of positive self talk. Like Pook says you are what you think. Visualize your goal train your sub concsious with affirmations etc. etc. I would just like to play devils advocate for a second to see peoples reactions. is it possible with these techniques you could be setting yourself up for dsapointment?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Self talk and inner game
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
always think positive, always assume the best...
No reason to think negative...back in 07 I had some real delusional beliefs that helped me a lot...but you must not be affected when your wrong...
If anything...don't be negative...I got blown out in 90% of my sets all last week...
No reason to think negative...back in 07 I had some real delusional beliefs that helped me a lot...but you must not be affected when your wrong...
If anything...don't be negative...I got blown out in 90% of my sets all last week...
blown out? what does that mean?Snow Plowman said:always think positive, always assume the best...
No reason to think negative...back in 07 I had some real delusional beliefs that helped me a lot...but you must not be affected when your wrong...
If anything...don't be negative...I got blown out in 90% of my sets all last week...
Sir I
Don Juan
the point is, don't turn negative when there is a setback, being positive comes pritty much down to my signature,
There are no problems, only challenges
There are no problems, only challenges
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Remember, there is Self Confidence, and then there is Self DELUSION.
Your 'gut' will usually keep you in 'check'.
That is why you need to build Authentic Self Esteem and teach your Body that it IS "confident" and that IT CAN 'handle this".
Otherwise, it won't believe you, and hold you back.
It's acually a mechanism of the primal brain. It is used to help keep people in certain social hierarchys.
But in modern societys may Social Staus 'cliques' and 'leagues' be DAMNED.
Rise above that idiocy, self importance, and delusion.
All 'status' and social cliques are fleeting and constantly changing.
If you base your identity and self worth on temporary and ultimately, superficial standards, you will be wasting your time and precious life energy...
Things are reallyu not 'good' or 'bad', it is ALL about how YOU 'react' or preferably, RESPOND to them.
Every challenge you face, you must learn to look at as an opportunity to grow and improve, and build authentic self esteem. No one can ever take that away from you.
We are often our own worst enemy.
Most people do NOT think that badly of us.
In fact, for some of us, people think very highly of us, and are actually interested in ourselves, our well being and peace of mind.
Can you believe that?
You can only bring that into your life if you build Self Esteem,and pursue the road to High Character.
When you do, only those people will be in your social circle.
It may not be huge, but they will be quality people. All who support you in some way.
This gives you more inspiration to be the best Man you can be.
Consistenly improving, learning, growing, evolving.
Sometimes we have to realize that what we think is a problem, actually isn't.
And sometimes when we think we NEED to have a solution, all we may really need to do is sit still, be quiet, and listen.....
There isn't always negative self talk, if you make an effort to 'quiet' your mind,and stop the incessant over analyzation and chatter...
Your 'gut' will usually keep you in 'check'.
That is why you need to build Authentic Self Esteem and teach your Body that it IS "confident" and that IT CAN 'handle this".
Otherwise, it won't believe you, and hold you back.
It's acually a mechanism of the primal brain. It is used to help keep people in certain social hierarchys.
But in modern societys may Social Staus 'cliques' and 'leagues' be DAMNED.
Rise above that idiocy, self importance, and delusion.
All 'status' and social cliques are fleeting and constantly changing.
If you base your identity and self worth on temporary and ultimately, superficial standards, you will be wasting your time and precious life energy...
Things are reallyu not 'good' or 'bad', it is ALL about how YOU 'react' or preferably, RESPOND to them.
Every challenge you face, you must learn to look at as an opportunity to grow and improve, and build authentic self esteem. No one can ever take that away from you.
We are often our own worst enemy.
Most people do NOT think that badly of us.
In fact, for some of us, people think very highly of us, and are actually interested in ourselves, our well being and peace of mind.
Can you believe that?
You can only bring that into your life if you build Self Esteem,and pursue the road to High Character.
When you do, only those people will be in your social circle.
It may not be huge, but they will be quality people. All who support you in some way.
This gives you more inspiration to be the best Man you can be.
Consistenly improving, learning, growing, evolving.
Sometimes we have to realize that what we think is a problem, actually isn't.
And sometimes when we think we NEED to have a solution, all we may really need to do is sit still, be quiet, and listen.....
There isn't always negative self talk, if you make an effort to 'quiet' your mind,and stop the incessant over analyzation and chatter...
This i will take to my grave, well said!Sir I said:the point is, don't turn negative when there is a setback, being positive comes pritty much down to my signature,
There are no problems, only challenges