I believe that out of everyone I'm the total exception to the rule, in that I am deserving of nothing. I feel this way yet I continue to have wants and needs and this is very conflicting. I get times in which a woman would give me signals and I would take notice of it but would never take the initiative to find out if it was genuine. I would always rationalize it as her "being friendly" regardless of what I want. I realize this pattern and all the many opportunities I had, but sill I continue to convince myself that no kind of woman would ever want anything to do with me. I just see myself as a big nobody. I can't even remember how long I've been feeling this way for.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Self rejection (another whiny post).
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
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LittleBigOne
Don Juan
Stop thinking too much. And keep the focus on yourself! Who cares what woman think. You never know what a woman thinks, you can't read them. Don't look for signs either, too complicated.
What you should do is work on the right mindset. What do YOU like in woman, and what kind of woman do YOU like?
To give you an actual example: today i asked a girl out. I think she is nice but she was never giving me a sign of interest, looked even more into my friend. And surprising she said yes so we visit a concert this weekend. I did not expect that she would say yes but even if sje rejected, wtf, would she put a gun against my head? She must be glad that I asked her.
That's a better way of thinking. Read the dj bible on mindsets and anti dump.
What you should do is work on the right mindset. What do YOU like in woman, and what kind of woman do YOU like?
To give you an actual example: today i asked a girl out. I think she is nice but she was never giving me a sign of interest, looked even more into my friend. And surprising she said yes so we visit a concert this weekend. I did not expect that she would say yes but even if sje rejected, wtf, would she put a gun against my head? She must be glad that I asked her.
That's a better way of thinking. Read the dj bible on mindsets and anti dump.
^^^^^^^^
I already know what I want/like but as I've mentioned before... as much as I may want something I never feel as if I'm deserving of anything. Could be conditioning from a miserable childhood and teen years which I hated even more. I have 0 control over my thoughts.
I already know what I want/like but as I've mentioned before... as much as I may want something I never feel as if I'm deserving of anything. Could be conditioning from a miserable childhood and teen years which I hated even more. I have 0 control over my thoughts.
LittleBigOne
Don Juan
It is not about what you deserve. It is about what you want and how to reach that. It sucks when people have a bad childhood but it is not an excuse about the way you are thinking on this subject.
I think you are afraid of rejection, which is normal. But deal with it and calculate in it that there will be rejections. It's part of it. So read anti dump and if it's really getiing out of hand get professional help.
I think you are afraid of rejection, which is normal. But deal with it and calculate in it that there will be rejections. It's part of it. So read anti dump and if it's really getiing out of hand get professional help.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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this guy is right. youre simply afraid of rejection. i am too. I use to think i was unworthy but then i changed my appearance into something that was worthy and now im working on my rjectino by appraoching people once i overcome my AALittleBigOne said:It is not about what you deserve. It is about what you want and how to reach that. It sucks when people have a bad childhood but it is not an excuse about the way you are thinking on this subject.
I think you are afraid of rejection, which is normal. But deal with it and calculate in it that there will be rejections. It's part of it. So read anti dump and if it's really getiing out of hand get professional help.
LittleBigOne
Don Juan
Are you sure you have been rejected so much? You said you never really showed geniun interest to a woman. So basicly you rejected YOURSELF.C-quenced said:I've been through enough rejection to not really care so much about it.
Have the guts to act!
Majestick
Don Juan
^^ Life is all about taking control. Being the master of your environment. Things won't happen if you don't make them happen. Hand outs, relying on other people (including the people who will attempt to help you in this post) will only get you so far.
At some point, you must realize that with every day that passes, your inevitable death is on its way. Now, that's not a sad thought. It's a happy one in the fact that it means you should appreciate every day, make the most of it. Take control.
At some point, you must realize that with every day that passes, your inevitable death is on its way. Now, that's not a sad thought. It's a happy one in the fact that it means you should appreciate every day, make the most of it. Take control.
I agree with where your coming from C-quenced. Ive had similar thoughts in my life.
The thing is, we all think that we, personally, are the exception to the rule in one way or another...because we are ourselves...and we as ourselves view the world from first person. The thing is, some people use this mentality in a positive sense, thinking they are above everyone and everything else and go on to accomplish great things, or at least have the beleif to keep trying.
Other people however (yourself included) view this exception to the rule mentality in the negative sense. They feel they dont fit in, they feel they are unique in a bad way, and feel they should be socially outcasted from the 'common stock'.
At the end of the day we are all different, some people think more than others, some people do more than others.
GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD MAN!!! and start experiencing. And try not to over-analyze every tiny incrimental detail of your day. For the most part no-one is heavily critiquing you and judging you...try to relax more, and you will find people will respond to the relaxed vibes you give off subconsciously.
The thing is, we all think that we, personally, are the exception to the rule in one way or another...because we are ourselves...and we as ourselves view the world from first person. The thing is, some people use this mentality in a positive sense, thinking they are above everyone and everything else and go on to accomplish great things, or at least have the beleif to keep trying.
Other people however (yourself included) view this exception to the rule mentality in the negative sense. They feel they dont fit in, they feel they are unique in a bad way, and feel they should be socially outcasted from the 'common stock'.
At the end of the day we are all different, some people think more than others, some people do more than others.
GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD MAN!!! and start experiencing. And try not to over-analyze every tiny incrimental detail of your day. For the most part no-one is heavily critiquing you and judging you...try to relax more, and you will find people will respond to the relaxed vibes you give off subconsciously.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.