Plinco
Master Don Juan
In my experience, the more independent minded I've become, the better my life had been. The more I've taken control for my own sake, the more I've re-shaped the world around me to fit my needs. The reason is straight forward. I know what my needs are more acutely than anyone else. I also know the details of my relationship with my needs and what specific aspect within myself that ought to be worked out or brought out as developed traits. So the conclusion is simple. The more independent you are, the more successful you can potentially be.
I've held the view that people would make that connection, that people would admire me for my independent mindedness. However in many cases nothing could be further than that. Being in a more self-improved mindset appears as anti-social to those who are in a less developed stage. That's okay, you don't need to change them. It's better to lead by example rather than by persuasion. If you try convincing someone of something, in many cases you'll likely lose their respect. Don't ever try to convince or persuade people who lack their own independence.
The lessons I've learned are to keep growing but don't expect people to admire you for it; Expect at least some hostility.
Another issue is that people often conflate isolation with independence, or rationality for a lack of emotion. Reason and emotion are not mutually exclusive but are companions. You'll feel much stronger emotions when you're clear headed and can integrate everything back to yourself, in other words, you can think with clarity how some thing or an idea affects you. Talk to any recovering drug addict and they'll tell you that clarity of mind affected their emotional state.
Socialization is pattern recognition. That's all. Nothing special about that in general. However one must consider that people don't always act rational. Non-forced obedience to "authority" figures is not rational, and yet people consider it to be a matter of 'social grace' to surrender themselves for the sake of someone else's interests. Part of developing yourself is breaking off habits that are for the sake of 'social grace' and not of reason.
Something I like to say is that some rules are meant to be followed and some rules are mean to be broken.
Now I don't endorse everything he says, but I think this is a decent enough video to get more attention. It gives a structured perspective on levels of independent mindedness and social dynamics.
I've held the view that people would make that connection, that people would admire me for my independent mindedness. However in many cases nothing could be further than that. Being in a more self-improved mindset appears as anti-social to those who are in a less developed stage. That's okay, you don't need to change them. It's better to lead by example rather than by persuasion. If you try convincing someone of something, in many cases you'll likely lose their respect. Don't ever try to convince or persuade people who lack their own independence.
The lessons I've learned are to keep growing but don't expect people to admire you for it; Expect at least some hostility.
Another issue is that people often conflate isolation with independence, or rationality for a lack of emotion. Reason and emotion are not mutually exclusive but are companions. You'll feel much stronger emotions when you're clear headed and can integrate everything back to yourself, in other words, you can think with clarity how some thing or an idea affects you. Talk to any recovering drug addict and they'll tell you that clarity of mind affected their emotional state.
Socialization is pattern recognition. That's all. Nothing special about that in general. However one must consider that people don't always act rational. Non-forced obedience to "authority" figures is not rational, and yet people consider it to be a matter of 'social grace' to surrender themselves for the sake of someone else's interests. Part of developing yourself is breaking off habits that are for the sake of 'social grace' and not of reason.
Something I like to say is that some rules are meant to be followed and some rules are mean to be broken.
Now I don't endorse everything he says, but I think this is a decent enough video to get more attention. It gives a structured perspective on levels of independent mindedness and social dynamics.
