mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What reasons would one "not try" or "not care" and get the consistent reward?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Self-improvement "for yourself"
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mike32ct
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It’s an interesting topic. In most areas of life, you definitely have to try and also care about the results. (But you also have to have enough patience to not get hung up on results because progress can be slower than you think.)
With women and dating, it’s a different animal. If they sense you are trying too hard to “get” them, they will get turned off. So there is definitely an element of IDGAF that is attractive because it takes the pressure off the girl.
An as I alluded to above, a guy might have certain SMV traits that make him attractive, so the women do more of the work to get him (rather than vice versa).
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
yep "try hard" definately upsets the "force". Causes some things to react the opposite as you would like. This is also how "self improvement" can be a negative for attraction, because that hard driving always improving energy comes off as "try hard" to others. Not to say don't "self improve" but be aware of the balance. IF you need to be attractive in areas of your life you need to be able to tone it down or wear the correct hat per say.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.