mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What reasons would one "not try" or "not care" and get the consistent reward?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Self-improvement "for yourself"
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mike32ct
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It’s an interesting topic. In most areas of life, you definitely have to try and also care about the results. (But you also have to have enough patience to not get hung up on results because progress can be slower than you think.)
With women and dating, it’s a different animal. If they sense you are trying too hard to “get” them, they will get turned off. So there is definitely an element of IDGAF that is attractive because it takes the pressure off the girl.
An as I alluded to above, a guy might have certain SMV traits that make him attractive, so the women do more of the work to get him (rather than vice versa).
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
yep "try hard" definately upsets the "force". Causes some things to react the opposite as you would like. This is also how "self improvement" can be a negative for attraction, because that hard driving always improving energy comes off as "try hard" to others. Not to say don't "self improve" but be aware of the balance. IF you need to be attractive in areas of your life you need to be able to tone it down or wear the correct hat per say.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.