phil2015
Senior Don Juan
Hi Guys,
Something I've been thinking about over the past 24 hours or so is the mental and emotional development that occurs after a couple breaks up.
I've noticed a popular image of what happens is showing the man initially happy and becoming more depressed over time, whilst the woman initially has a strong negative reaction and gets happier over the next few months.
Please see image below;
However............
Whilst this may be true in some cases, I happen to feel that generally speaking, especially if the woman has become over complacent in the relationship the self esteem levels of the man and woman will closer resemble those below.
In this we see, that at point A - A break up occurs.....
The woman's self esteem is initially very high, with her friends, family, orbiters etc all telling her she 'can do better' and will be 'better of on her own' etc painting an image of a rosy future where she can do better on everything.
By contrast, the man esteem at this point is very low. Men are typically unprepared for the break-up/being dumped and as a result it hits them hard.
The key point I'm making on this graph, is that for the man his esteem can only rise or improve over time. This will be accelerated if he looks after himself, hits the gym, meditates, focusses on self-improvement etc. If hes got any plates this can only help. Over time he rises and is often stronger than before.
By contrast, the woman hits the clubs and bars with her BFFs, gay best friends and new found freedom. Initially she has fun, gets drunk and hit on by randoms yet the general 'pump and dump' attitude of most men makes her realise what she has given up on. The scarcity of having a relationship or someone solid kicks in her anxiety, depression, fear increases. She becomes gripped by a sense of loss and regret over time. This is especially predominant is she ended the relationship.
This explains why after X amount of time, many women attempt to get back in contact with their previous partners out of the blue.
......Just some thoughts I've been having here, but I'd be interested to know what any of you think.....
P
Something I've been thinking about over the past 24 hours or so is the mental and emotional development that occurs after a couple breaks up.
I've noticed a popular image of what happens is showing the man initially happy and becoming more depressed over time, whilst the woman initially has a strong negative reaction and gets happier over the next few months.
Please see image below;
However............
Whilst this may be true in some cases, I happen to feel that generally speaking, especially if the woman has become over complacent in the relationship the self esteem levels of the man and woman will closer resemble those below.
In this we see, that at point A - A break up occurs.....
The woman's self esteem is initially very high, with her friends, family, orbiters etc all telling her she 'can do better' and will be 'better of on her own' etc painting an image of a rosy future where she can do better on everything.
By contrast, the man esteem at this point is very low. Men are typically unprepared for the break-up/being dumped and as a result it hits them hard.
The key point I'm making on this graph, is that for the man his esteem can only rise or improve over time. This will be accelerated if he looks after himself, hits the gym, meditates, focusses on self-improvement etc. If hes got any plates this can only help. Over time he rises and is often stronger than before.
By contrast, the woman hits the clubs and bars with her BFFs, gay best friends and new found freedom. Initially she has fun, gets drunk and hit on by randoms yet the general 'pump and dump' attitude of most men makes her realise what she has given up on. The scarcity of having a relationship or someone solid kicks in her anxiety, depression, fear increases. She becomes gripped by a sense of loss and regret over time. This is especially predominant is she ended the relationship.
This explains why after X amount of time, many women attempt to get back in contact with their previous partners out of the blue.
......Just some thoughts I've been having here, but I'd be interested to know what any of you think.....
P