"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Self-Deprication

jakethasnake

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How do you guys feel about self-deprication? I think it depends on the situation, but generally, it's a good way to show that you're relaxed and secure about yourself. It's one of the best ways to disarm someone in your presence, to put their egos at ease. For example, I have a slightly large head (in length, from top to bottom), and I've called myself a 'buckethead' - and people/girls love it! They think it's cute and funny.



So is self-deprication a useful DJ tool? Or will it forever prevent women from taking you seriously as a man? I think this is an interesting question. :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MVPlaya

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Originally posted by jakethasnake
So is self-deprication a useful DJ tool? Or will it forever prevent women from taking you seriously as a man? I think this is an interesting question. :)
It depends on how it flows with the rest of your persona. If people already see you as a High-Status Male, they will not question you because of a joke, be funny and at ease but still command respect.
 

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Once again, it depends on the situation. If you just come out and make fun of yourself trying to be funny, but no one else was even busting on you... chances are it would be awkward. However, if people are busting your chops, the best way to disarm them is to agree with them. I do it all the time and most people don't know how to respond.
 

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Originally posted by DJUofS
Once again, it depends on the situation. If you just come out and make fun of yourself trying to be funny, but no one else was even busting on you... chances are it would be awkward. However, if people are busting your chops, the best way to disarm them is to agree with them. I do it all the time and most people don't know how to respond.
I agree. And I also think it's personal... If you're not a very alpha-type person then I don't think it will impress girls (it will still put other people's egos at ease because it kind of makes you look weak IMO)
 
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