"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do you guys feel about self-deprication? I think it depends on the situation, but generally, it's a good way to show that you're relaxed and secure about yourself. It's one of the best ways to disarm someone in your presence, to put their egos at ease. For example, I have a slightly large head (in length, from top to bottom), and I've called myself a 'buckethead' - and people/girls love it! They think it's cute and funny.



So is self-deprication a useful DJ tool? Or will it forever prevent women from taking you seriously as a man? I think this is an interesting question. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by jakethasnake
So is self-deprication a useful DJ tool? Or will it forever prevent women from taking you seriously as a man? I think this is an interesting question. :)
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It depends on how it flows with the rest of your persona. If people already see you as a High-Status Male, they will not question you because of a joke, be funny and at ease but still command respect.
 
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Once again, it depends on the situation. If you just come out and make fun of yourself trying to be funny, but no one else was even busting on you... chances are it would be awkward. However, if people are busting your chops, the best way to disarm them is to agree with them. I do it all the time and most people don't know how to respond.
 
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Originally posted by DJUofS
Once again, it depends on the situation. If you just come out and make fun of yourself trying to be funny, but no one else was even busting on you... chances are it would be awkward. However, if people are busting your chops, the best way to disarm them is to agree with them. I do it all the time and most people don't know how to respond.
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I agree. And I also think it's personal... If you're not a very alpha-type person then I don't think it will impress girls (it will still put other people's egos at ease because it kind of makes you look weak IMO)
 
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