"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Seems Wierd.
- Thread starter Dank Juan
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I agree though I dissagree on tellign soemthign embarrassing, makignt hem confortable is key, get her interested, get her confortable and its game overMrGold said:Lol, you need to make her feel comfortable around you, make her open herself up. By telling her something personal about youself, something funny or embarrasing, it'll trigger her brain to automatically trust you more, allowing herself to relax and drop barriers, maybe she'll respond by telling u something embarrasing about herself. Holding strong eye contact can be kinda intimidating, plus using kino might scare her... These factors need to be phased in gradually rather than immediatly. The ideas to break the trust barrier and get to know the person she really is, then work your magic from there.