"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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Seems some ladies do not like my accent... WTF?

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I spoke to a lady on the phone the other day and she didn't seem to like my Italian accent. I have a kinda strong Italian accent, and she said I sounded like a guy from the city? She's from the Bronx and didn't have an accent, I'm originally from Queens. This is not the first time I've heard this. We were talking for about 20 minutes and she was going on about her life and then I said I'd love to learn more. How about we get a drink and discuss in person? I already asked once via online message, and she wanted to speak on the phone first. She said she had to check her schedule and would let me know. That was two days ago. A bit surprised as she was the one who reached out to me through online message and also texted me first after we exchanged numbers. Should I reach out a third time or just let it be? I am thinking just let it be as I already asked initially via online message, and then on the phone call.
 

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You literally made a thread asking for help on your thick Italian accent...this will help. You're using language from 100 years ago.
You literally make threads asking for help on your medically diagnosed women ... this will help. You’re using medical language to label women and you’re not a doctor.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The men around here use ladies all the time, same as in Queens. Perhaps, it's an Italian thing.

I call them “broads”. I’m dating a broad right now that has a thick Polish accent, half of the time I have no idea what she is saying but who cares she’s hot. Women are picky as hell and are always looking for a way to disqualify you. Sounds likes she did you a favor, who wants to hang with a broad that insults you even before you met.
 

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I don't get it - did she tell you she didn't like your accent? If not, how did she "seem" not to - just her tone that changed?

I assume it is not an Italian accent but a NY/Queens accent.
I said it's a Queens accent, but she said it was an strong Italian accent. She grew up on Arthur avenue, so she should be used to it. We talked on Sunday at her request. I asked to see her sometime this week and what's her week look like. She said she couldn't do Tuesday or Thursday, but will check her schedule and get back to me tomorrow; which would had been Monday.
 

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Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I guess I may be wrong. She just texted and said she's been extremely busy and wants to meetup on Friday. However, I already have plans for Friday. Should I suggest Saturday or Sunday? What's the best way to tackle this w/o blowing it up in my face?
 

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Unless you sound like Vito Corleone, you'll be fine. The Jersey shore guys don't seem to be in a shortage of pvssy.
 

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I guess I may be wrong. She just texted and said she's been extremely busy and wants to meetup on Friday. However, I already have plans for Friday. Should I suggest Saturday or Sunday? What's the best way to tackle this w/o blowing it up in my face?
If you already have plans then she's out of luck, just reschedule
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you already have plans then she's out of luck, just reschedule
Depends on how "breakable" your plans are, i.e. your priorities, but I think it's better for frame's sake to keep them and counter with, eh, Sunday. Tell her you're gonna take her out for some fresh muzzadell and maybe a little manicot.
I told her that I already have something going on Friday, but free Sunday. She said she had a Superbowl party on Sunday. I just said let's shoot for next week. Let me know when you're available. I'm not holding my breath on hearing back from her, but we'll see.
 

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I told her that I already have something going on Friday, but free Sunday. She said she had a Superbowl party on Sunday. I just said let's shoot for next week. Let me know when you're available. I'm not holding my breath on hearing back from her, but we'll see.
That's fine, just reach out in a few days.....
 

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Next time she comments on your accent, jokingly say that's funny, I thought you sounded kinda Jersey. Let it go, prob. testing to see if you're too self conscious. That seems common with- women, wimmin, ladies, lasses, hoes, etc.
 

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Next time she comments on your accent, jokingly say that's funny, I thought you sounded kinda Jersey. Let it go, prob. testing to see if you're too self conscious. That seems common with- women, wimmin, ladies, lasses, hoes, etc.
I didn't take it personally, I just asked her about hers and we moved on to the next topic.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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