"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Seems some ladies do not like my accent... WTF?

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I told her that I already have something going on Friday, but free Sunday. She said she had a Superbowl party on Sunday. I just said let's shoot for next week. Let me know when you're available. I'm not holding my breath on hearing back from her, but we'll see.
Planning a date on Super Bowl Sunday was a bad idea my friend. It shows you have nothing going on. Never plan a date on days like that. I would just move on all together. Good luck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Planning a date on Super Bowl Sunday was a bad idea my friend. It shows you have nothing going on. Never plan a date on days like that. I would just move on all together. Good luck.
Forgot it was Superbowl. Believe it or not, not everyone follows football.
 

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As we get older, regional accents work against us more and more. I'm born and bred NY suburbs, which means a mild NY accent that has diminished over time. I think it's always a good idea to moderate one's regional accent. Having said that, my girlfriend loves my pronunciation of water (wauter).

In most cases, a strong regional accent makes one appear uneducated or "slow" to those who don't have that accent. It's just human wiring. One can increase his appeal by moderating his accent and learning to enunciate more clearly.
 

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As we get older, regional accents work against us more and more. I'm born and bred NY suburbs, which means a mild NY accent that has diminished over time. I think it's always a good idea to moderate one's regional accent. Having said that, my girlfriend loves my pronunciation of water (wauter).

In most cases, a strong regional accent makes one appear uneducated or "slow" to those who don't have that accent. It's just human wiring. One can increase his appeal by moderating his accent and learning to enunciate more clearly.
Australian or England accent raises perceptions of intelligence.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I’m talking about regional accents. From within the same country. In my area the Australian accent has decreased in favor over the past few decades.

@Mike32ct you are correct in some places in the world, but within the United States we usually think in terms of accents (e.g. “southern accent”) since the language is essentially the same. Just the way the same words are pronounced is was causes the perception of an accent. I’m pretty sure that dialects involve using actual different words as if speaking another language. I could be wrong but that has always been my perception of the concept of dialects.
 

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Anyways, I followed up a day after, she responded about an hour later and asked me a question, then before I could respond she said she wasn't feeling well and was going to sleep. I told her to feel better and if she's better by the end of the week we should meet up for the drink. She texted back, thanks and I will keep in touch.

Gotta love it.
 
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