Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Seems like I'm only attracted to narcissistic, attention-seeking women

DiegoSantori

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I swear, the last 3 women I dealt with, were only flirting with me for attention, when I wanted to kiss them, they suddenly stopped flirting.

People standing on the sidelines were always telling me "Wow, that chick is totally digging you. Go for it!" or asking "Are you seeing each other?". But in the end, it's always the same story. Chick shows interest, I show interest too, Chick smiles, I smile, I try to seal the deal, she backs off.

It seems to me like they enjoy my attention, try to raise my hopes, so that I don't break off contact with them, but at the same time they stay aloof sending mixed signals.

My good looks have always opened the door, but when I try to step inside, I get the door slammed in my face.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Huffman

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Yeah man, those suck. I guess you're "only" attracted to them because they're usually pretty hot ;)

People are going to tell you to improve your game so you can "break through" all her tests and resistance but hell. It still sucks. Don't want to jump through hoops just to get with a woman who's not worth it.
 

DiegoSantori

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Huffman said:
Yeah man, those suck. I guess you're "only" attracted to them because they're usually pretty hot ;)

That's a valid point. Hot chicks get lots of attention, this is why they 'can afford' to play games like that.
 

Krueg

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Go for the shy ones! Be aware of girls who approach you!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PeasantPlayer

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When I was in better shape I had girls approach me often. At the time I was young and didn't have a lot of experience with women, now it doesn't happen as much, I get looks more. But I am curious why beware of a women who approaches you?
 

The LadyKiller

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I'm going through the very same thing myself. Girls in recent weeks show visible IOIs, my friends see them and say all systems are a go, only for the girl to pull away. It has gotten to the point that I'm somewhat jaded as a result, can't believe something until it actually happens.
 

MillionBillionaire

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All the PUA's will tell you to push and pull better.. get the woman invested in the conversation and don't try soo hard...

That being said.. I am really burnt out atm from "the game" because of this very reason.

I feel like I am in need for some inspiration.
 
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