"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Seems like I'm only attracted to narcissistic, attention-seeking women

DiegoSantori

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I swear, the last 3 women I dealt with, were only flirting with me for attention, when I wanted to kiss them, they suddenly stopped flirting.

People standing on the sidelines were always telling me "Wow, that chick is totally digging you. Go for it!" or asking "Are you seeing each other?". But in the end, it's always the same story. Chick shows interest, I show interest too, Chick smiles, I smile, I try to seal the deal, she backs off.

It seems to me like they enjoy my attention, try to raise my hopes, so that I don't break off contact with them, but at the same time they stay aloof sending mixed signals.

My good looks have always opened the door, but when I try to step inside, I get the door slammed in my face.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Huffman

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Yeah man, those suck. I guess you're "only" attracted to them because they're usually pretty hot ;)

People are going to tell you to improve your game so you can "break through" all her tests and resistance but hell. It still sucks. Don't want to jump through hoops just to get with a woman who's not worth it.
 

DiegoSantori

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Huffman said:
Yeah man, those suck. I guess you're "only" attracted to them because they're usually pretty hot ;)

That's a valid point. Hot chicks get lots of attention, this is why they 'can afford' to play games like that.
 

Krueg

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Go for the shy ones! Be aware of girls who approach you!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PeasantPlayer

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When I was in better shape I had girls approach me often. At the time I was young and didn't have a lot of experience with women, now it doesn't happen as much, I get looks more. But I am curious why beware of a women who approaches you?
 

The LadyKiller

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I'm going through the very same thing myself. Girls in recent weeks show visible IOIs, my friends see them and say all systems are a go, only for the girl to pull away. It has gotten to the point that I'm somewhat jaded as a result, can't believe something until it actually happens.
 

MillionBillionaire

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All the PUA's will tell you to push and pull better.. get the woman invested in the conversation and don't try soo hard...

That being said.. I am really burnt out atm from "the game" because of this very reason.

I feel like I am in need for some inspiration.
 
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