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Seemingly every avenue to meet single women is completely dominated in numbers by men. What am I supposed to do?

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Go on a dating app - 90% male

Any Meetup or local group that I’ve tried - over 90% male

Go to a bar - overflowing with guys

Even tried treating myself at a coffee shop - every table in the building was occupied by one male

You see where I’m going with this. I can’t seem to go anywhere to interact with single women that isn’t absolutely swarming with desperate, lonely, and overly aggressive dudes. And I now live in a city that is supposed to have way more women than men. It just doesn’t make sense, and to be honest, it’s really starting to get under my skin. I want to get back into dating, but there’s no realistic way to do this with these kinds of crazy gender ratios. I wholeheartedly believe in what I have to offer, but I need a chance to be able to show that.

Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
 

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What's your goal? What are you looking for?

That's the starting point. You can't make a plan without a purpose.
 

EyeOnThePrize

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Go on a dating app - 90% male

Any Meetup or local group that I’ve tried - over 90% male

Go to a bar - overflowing with guys

Even tried treating myself at a coffee shop - every table in the building was occupied by one male

You see where I’m going with this. I can’t seem to go anywhere to interact with single women that isn’t absolutely swarming with desperate, lonely, and overly aggressive dudes. And I now live in a city that is supposed to have way more women than men. It just doesn’t make sense, and to be honest, it’s really starting to get under my skin. I want to get back into dating, but there’s no realistic way to do this with these kinds of crazy gender ratios. I wholeheartedly believe in what I have to offer, but I need a chance to be able to show that.

Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
Dance classes are mainly women, yoga classes are mainly women, hospitals are mainly women, pet shelters are mainly women, the list goes on.

Why would desperate men be a bad thing? They'll make you look great by comparison, you'll stand out in a good way.

When you are in the zone you won't care about other men, they'll be invisible to you. The fact that you see them as a threat shows that you don't feel very confident in your abilities.

Not only are you threatened by them, but you're complaining and lying to yourself that THEY are the reason you're not getting any. I'm guessing female attention validates you more than it should, and as a result you have a toxic dependent relationship with it.

I bet I could show up in your city and get laid the first night. I bet I could get someone else laid the first night I get there. Get out of this shiitty biitchy complainer mindset and embrace the challenges presented to you.

You won't die if it's a dry night, so why act like it? And the more work you put into your body and mind, the easier women become. Sprawl out the honey and let the bees swarm around you.
 

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Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
You're definitely hunting in all the wrong places. Meetup is shiit. Dating apps are shiit.

Dance and fitness classes are often majority female. That's a start. There are fashion and art events that @Solomon frequents. Those are mostly female. You could daygame the streets and parks.
 

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And yet people still date and bang women all the time...

There might be a lot of quantity but the quality is at an all time low for guys. If you are a quality guy you will not have much of an issue finding women.
 

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Go on a dating app - 90% male

Any Meetup or local group that I’ve tried - over 90% male

Go to a bar - overflowing with guys

Even tried treating myself at a coffee shop - every table in the building was occupied by one male

You see where I’m going with this. I can’t seem to go anywhere to interact with single women that isn’t absolutely swarming with desperate, lonely, and overly aggressive dudes. And I now live in a city that is supposed to have way more women than men. It just doesn’t make sense, and to be honest, it’s really starting to get under my skin. I want to get back into dating, but there’s no realistic way to do this with these kinds of crazy gender ratios. I wholeheartedly believe in what I have to offer, but I need a chance to be able to show that.

Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
I lived in a similar city except way more men than women. The answer is my "service sector game" post. This and day game worked for me, not even social circles.
 

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You are a parrot of your own greatness lol.

Everyone can self improve, but there are actual objective problems meeting women for most men and self improvement will only go so far. But I think you know that.
in theory it should not be a big problem for most men to meet women .

you go to work , you buy good , have a beer after work etc etc . Every time when you are not at home you have the chance of meeting new women

that is why I think that cold approaching is a must
 

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Go on a dating app - 90% male

Any Meetup or local group that I’ve tried - over 90% male

Go to a bar - overflowing with guys

Even tried treating myself at a coffee shop - every table in the building was occupied by one male

You see where I’m going with this. I can’t seem to go anywhere to interact with single women that isn’t absolutely swarming with desperate, lonely, and overly aggressive dudes. And I now live in a city that is supposed to have way more women than men. It just doesn’t make sense, and to be honest, it’s really starting to get under my skin. I want to get back into dating, but there’s no realistic way to do this with these kinds of crazy gender ratios. I wholeheartedly believe in what I have to offer, but I need a chance to be able to show that.

Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
How do you think women feel dude?

Invasion of the Simps

Women find all these lonely, angry simps that have swarmed every corner of life grotesque too. They find it so grotesque that many of them now hate the idea of men, have chopped off all their hair, and have joined a Climate Change protest.

Men have totally failed women.

Also, maybe you should stop simping and thinking a wife is the solution to all your problems. That’s going to creep women out too. You’re pushing sh1t uphill bro. The simping is increasing, not lessening. It’s all going to get harder and harder from here. Woke has won. You’ll have to bang trannies soon.

The only way to bang cute women in 2022 regularly is massive massive frame and independence of women. That vibe is so rare now. All dudes are crying “where’s my mommy?” - so if you can avoid that you’re winning.
 

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I went on dating apps. I was overweight at the time and not particularly photogenic.

I had a new date minimum twice a month.

I found the better sites where you have to pay was much better than tinder and the free ones, which were all about looks.

I did, however, spend most evenings messaging. I had maybe a one in 10-15 response rate.

I’d say the responders, one in 3 got to a date. Out of the dates, maybe 1 in 2 got to sechs.

I would add that the moment I gave up PUA game techniques, and presented myself as who I was, the better it got.

You have to accentuate your real strengths.

At first I tried sporty pics and a picture of my nice car/flat. The moment I changed to the real me - a good suit. Blazer and jeans, it changed .

If you can’t pull off bad boy alpha (I can’t), pull off “guy who she would be proud to bring to a party”

OLD gets a bad rap, but as has been established, a lot of guys are here because they don’t know how to talk to women. Especially with written communications, I find this easy.
 

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In a cafe right now. All guys.
You do realise that you’re a guy…in a cafe. Right?

What if all those other guys are thinking the same thing?

Maybe you should leave the cafe so that there are less guys?

It’s kinda funny to me that guys go to places full of guys and then complain about these guys doing exactly what they are doing.
 

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Go on a dating app - 90% male

Any Meetup or local group that I’ve tried - over 90% male

Go to a bar - overflowing with guys

Even tried treating myself at a coffee shop - every table in the building was occupied by one male

You see where I’m going with this. I can’t seem to go anywhere to interact with single women that isn’t absolutely swarming with desperate, lonely, and overly aggressive dudes. And I now live in a city that is supposed to have way more women than men. It just doesn’t make sense, and to be honest, it’s really starting to get under my skin. I want to get back into dating, but there’s no realistic way to do this with these kinds of crazy gender ratios. I wholeheartedly believe in what I have to offer, but I need a chance to be able to show that.

Have other people had this experience?

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this?
Stop worrying about other guys. You should be improving yourself so you're better then most guys. If you go somewhere and men out number women then if you're high value then you shouldn't have a problem getting a woman there. For dating apps it's pretty much the same. Improve yourself and you will get more women. Stop worrying about other guys.
 

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You do realise that you’re a guy…in a cafe. Right?

What if all those other guys are thinking the same thing?

Maybe you should leave the cafe so that there are less guys?

It’s kinda funny to me that guys go to places full of guys and then complain about these guys doing exactly what they are doing.
I’ve a GF already so not that important to me. I came in for a coffee. Just noticed the ratio and posted since the OP mentioned this subject.
 

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I’ve a GF already so not that important to me. I came in for a coffee. Just noticed the ratio and posted since the OP mentioned this subject.
Maybe all those other guys have “girlfriends” too and they are just popping in for a quick coffee?
 

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For me, the best way to meet new women isn't to go to social meeting spots like night clubs, bars or OLD. It's actually just meeting them during my day-to-day errands like going to the bank, grocery store, cafe, gym, restaurant, etc....

The trick is to become a regular at those places so that people get familiar with seeing you.

The problem, as you mentioned in the OP, is that any place that's meant to be a social meeting spot between men and women will almost certainly be overflowing with men.

But as usual, the deciding factor is how you look and how you present yourself. If you look fit, clean, handsome and appear to have a friendly demeanor then it's much easier to talk to random women.

No way around it, man, you HAVE to look good.
 

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Troll someone else.
You’re trolling dude. Half your posts are about how you’ve chosen to work in an industry that is female-ratio-heavy just so you can simp more.

You aren’t above simping, like you pretend to be
 

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You’re trolling dude. Half your posts are about how you’ve chosen to work in an industry that is female-ratio-heavy just so you can simp more.

You aren’t above simping, like you pretend to be
Never said I didn’t simp.
 
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