Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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See what you have done to me sosuave

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I'm america's worst nightmare!!

Apparantly, I'm an arrogant *******, who gets rediculted for expressing his opinions and standing up for himself when he feels he is right about something that he is passionate about.

other side effects of this site are having a backbone, not taking crap from anyone, actually having an opinion to express and not being afraid to defend it, having morals and values.


BTW I'm back at home, safe and sound.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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:trouble: = backbreaker
:cheer: = me
:moon: = us to the world

comic_relief
 

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I can, I just dont' want to.

Just kiddin. I've just gotten into alot of runins over the last month or so, for no other reason that I stand up for what i believe is right and I dont' take ****.

Funny enough, I got into it with one woman over me quesntioning her belief on something industry related. Ddin't call her out.. didn't say anything negative.. just told her I resepct her opinion but disagree, and this is why.. and I'm an ******* who is arrogant.. ust because I don't bow to her fat ass glory.

and that same woman has been calling me.. Behind my GF's back mind you, as they are actually somewhat friends, trying to "pick my brain and grab lunch"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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backbreaker said:
other side effects of this site are having a backbone, not taking crap from anyone, actually having an opinion to express and not being afraid to defend it, having morals and values.
you needed this site for all this?

I think you need an intensive course of squats
 

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Warboss Alex said:
you needed this site for all this?

I think you need an intensive course of squats
:crackup: It's always about squats, isn't it Alex.
 

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LOL Alex :p

Just started my squats yesterday ;)
 

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backbreaker said:
Apparantly, I'm an arrogant *******,

I told a girl I was God once and she saidif I was God that I should go and sacrifice myself on the cross. I told her she was about 2000 years too late for that and she responded with, "**** YOU AND DIE AGAIN!"

I think you can handle being an arrogant a.sshole.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
I told a girl I was God once and she saidif I was God that I should go and sacrifice myself on the cross. I told her she was about 2000 years too late for that and she responded with, "**** YOU AND DIE AGAIN!"

I think you can handle being an arrogant a.sshole.
but the thing is I'm not really arrogant...

sure of myself? of course

confident in my abilities? check

what triggers the arrogant ******* comments is when I dont' play the status quo game of the woman is right, she's the **** and you are lucky to be in her presence. always agreeing with whatever she says, even if it's dead wrong.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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backbreaker said:
other side effects of this site are having an opinion to express and not being afraid to defend it, having morals and values..
You're kidding, right?
 

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backbreaker said:
other side effects of this site are having a backbone, not taking crap from anyone, actually having an opinion to express and not being afraid to defend it, having morals and values.
You left out a few things

- Analyzing your social interactions like they were cold fusion
- Having to constantly prove how right you are
- Pretending to be an expert because you read some inspirational posts
- Wh0ring for constant attention because nobody likes you in the real world
- Having way too much free time on your hands
- Rabid addicition to posting, trolling, flaming, whining, b!tching and defending your fragile ego.

That about covers it :)
 

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Dude backbreaker,

you seem like a pretty cool bro. But it seems that all you really do on this forum is brag about how cool you are...
 

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D!ck Ramsey said:
You left out a few things

- Analyzing your social interactions like they were cold fusion
- Having to constantly prove how right you are
- Pretending to be an expert because you read some inspirational posts
- Wh0ring for constant attention because nobody likes you in the real world
- Having way too much free time on your hands
- Rabid addicition to posting, trolling, flaming, whining, b!tching and defending your fragile ego.

That about covers it :)
Damn right :rock:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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backbreaker said:
Damn right :rock:
free time on my hands.. take a look at the numbe rof posts and look how long I've actually been here.

I've been home for what.. 5 of the last 30 days..m ost of that being overseas..well about half of that.

Also.. the nature of my work, which is watching races.. requires me to be online alot. therefore, this is anice..w ell not really.. but it's something to do when the pages are loading.

face it man.. i rule
 

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backbreaker said:
free time on my hands.. take a look at the numbe rof posts and look how long I've actually been here.

I've been home for what.. 5 of the last 30 days..m ost of that being overseas..well about half of that.

Also.. the nature of my work, which is watching races.. requires me to be online alot. therefore, this is anice..w ell not really.. but it's something to do when the pages are loading.

face it man.. i rule

No.
 

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seriously.. somewhat.. am I arrogant? God no. but am I sure of myself. God yes. I"m not ashamed of what i've done. So the **** what! if you dont' like it go out and do something you are proud of. otherwise stop getting mad when your Girl is eyeing me and you are pleeding that you are such a nice guy

I'm smart, ambitious, driven, picture perfect health, can dress, I do well for myself.. so Yes.. I feel pretty darn good about myself. too bad you don't
 

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backbreaker said:
free time on my hands.. take a look at the numbe rof posts and look how long I've actually been here.

I've been home for what.. 5 of the last 30 days..m ost of that being overseas..well about half of that.

Also.. the nature of my work, which is watching races.. requires me to be online alot. therefore, this is anice..w ell not really.. but it's something to do when the pages are loading.

face it man.. i rule
I was actually referring to your average SoSuave poster. I don't know you well enough to make the call..

For the record you seem relatively cool to me.. compared to most of the nutless wonders who frequent this place.

Play on playah
 

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no, some people for whatever the reason may be.. maybe because I have a d!ck bigger than a subway footlong I dont' know.. try to hate on me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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