"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Seducing Married Women 101
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Was the sex good? It was awesome, but not because she was neglected, more so because of her emotional state at the time.
Do I regret it? Oddly no. Would I do it again? No. Did I compromise my values? Yes.... And that and the knowlwedge I could be outed still to this day weighs on me for letting it happen.
Nothing good can come from it......Just ain't worth carrying around your whole life.
TC
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I'm not understanding this, carrying what around your whole life? I personally dont give a sh!t about her husband, I have zero "guilt" or whatever you guys have, why should I ? .TheCzar said:
Seriously just explain it, what am I missing?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Well. for me it became the defining moment where I had the epiphany about being a man or being a wuss. All those things you say are projections of your own self value. Am not going to dive down into psych 101, but you'd be suprised what you say about others reflects on your own self image. What I carry is the regret I didn't realize it earlier and the knowledge that though I learned alot about myself from it, it can always come back to haunt me.
TC
Powerlifter
Senior Don Juan
When we were introduced by the admissions officer of the nursing home she introduced her as one of the physcial therpist there and I comedically said at the time I feel I need physcial therapy. Before she left she smiled and said it was nice meeting me and I said the same.
I didn't realize this would be the same lady who would be giving my Mom physcial therpy and as time has gone on I took note that one time her husband called her while I was in the therpy room and she slammed the phone down in which one of her co-workers remarked wow! whats going on and another co-worker said she married thats what and then the one I like says no you just married the right one.
During this exchanges I noticed her eye contact was strong at me and she even walked away and started messing with her hair putting it up exposing her neck after this she was talking and saying to her co-workers she will be 40 this summer and she won't be there working and she will be on a beach somewhere in a bikini.
Long story short this lady has given me strong eye contact plus the most wide and teeth showing beautiful smile I have ever experieced with a woman. I also noticed one time she pulled her car up next to my truck as when I parked it she was in the parking space up front to the left of me and when I came out it was next to mine driver side facing mine at the time I didn't know this was her car until later and I was sensing a hint of something she was trying to say without saying it.
Off and on now for 6 weeks now her smile is always warm and feel there is something there but I stop myself because she is married. I also asked the admissions officer about her and she said she was happyly married but the signs this lady gives says she is ready for adventure and I am willing to give it but really don't know how to get started.
She still wears her wedding band but I notice she use to wear two rings now it's on the one not sure what that means.
Any suggestions on where to go from here as my Mom will be going home in a couple weeks and won't be seeing her I am 50 in great shape single with no kids of my own and would really like to see where this can go also forgive my grammer and spelling.
So far I have not given her any compliments but have talked with her about Moms progress and have not really dug deeper in what makes her tick.
Thanks for any suggestions.
Powerlifter
To all of you that have girlfriends and married........man your girl rocked my world......so thanks.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
romanticman
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I have a gorgeous married client who I have known for a few years. Last christmas for business I took a box of chocolates to all my clients including her. She was not available and so I left them at her front desk. I got in my car to leave and she ran down the stairs ot to the car park to thank me.Powerlifter said:
She grabbedd my arm as I wound down my window and kissed me on the lips for a few seconds. We spoke for a bit and then as she was about to leave I asked her for a second kiss..this time it also lingered on my lips for a few seconds. She smiled I smiled said goodbye and drove off...shaking!!
Truth is I have since never spoken to her about it even though she looked very excited to see me when she saw me in the new year.I have not followed through even though my body wants her my heart and mind know that I am doing the right thing and feel better for it. Dont be the scapegoat for a divorce.
ALPHAROMEO
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my husband is away a lot on business
i am the typical executive woman sexy looking i think always dressed up perfectly and neatly as it befits my job
i am in my late thirties and i am crazy about this young guy at work he must be in his early twenties ( i am thirty eight ) i can help it i just fancy him like mad
i called him into my office the other day i made sure my executive skirt was showing some of my thighs and i dramatized my clivage
you see we women even though me might married and have regular sex with our partner we are still very open
ps alpharomeo being the nice guy allowed me to use his space
DonGorgon
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