"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SECOND CHANCES; advice

alkaline hero

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Is a guy entitled to a second chance on an approach?
Although Im open to a variety of women I had one girl targeted from class. I was determined to talk to her. Then I saw her after class in the library. The only part of my game that lacks is my approach anxiety which wrapped its claws around my neck. I pushed it aside and said "Hey" to her and she smiled and said "hey" back. I quickly pointed out how nice her dress was, she thanked me and then I decided to rip her soul out, PAUSE in the conversation and I responded with, "you must have stolen it from my grandma," and we laughed. Unfortunately, I was nervous and asked her something stupid from class, she responds, blah, blah. I asked her where the tutor center was and then I left.

I went and sat down next to another girl from my class and we hit it off perfectly, I got her name, number, etc; It just went smooth.

I want to know if I should give the first girl a second chance to see if we could hit it off or do you think she's probably made up her mind about me. Dying to get some advice on this one.

& please stop being a bunch of pads and give a fellow guy some advice dont jsut read this post,,, hah
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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alkaline hero said:
I want to know if I should give the first girl a second chance to see if we could hit it off or do you think she's probably made up her mind about me. Dying to get some advice on this one.

Why would she have her mind made up about you?

Next time you see her, start talking about your social life. Parties, bars, etc. Tell her, "You should come with me to (blank). What's your number?" She'll give you her number. Then take it from there.
 

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Thanks for the advice man that sounds pretty damn fine.
 
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