"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SECOND CHANCES; advice

alkaline hero

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Is a guy entitled to a second chance on an approach?
Although Im open to a variety of women I had one girl targeted from class. I was determined to talk to her. Then I saw her after class in the library. The only part of my game that lacks is my approach anxiety which wrapped its claws around my neck. I pushed it aside and said "Hey" to her and she smiled and said "hey" back. I quickly pointed out how nice her dress was, she thanked me and then I decided to rip her soul out, PAUSE in the conversation and I responded with, "you must have stolen it from my grandma," and we laughed. Unfortunately, I was nervous and asked her something stupid from class, she responds, blah, blah. I asked her where the tutor center was and then I left.

I went and sat down next to another girl from my class and we hit it off perfectly, I got her name, number, etc; It just went smooth.

I want to know if I should give the first girl a second chance to see if we could hit it off or do you think she's probably made up her mind about me. Dying to get some advice on this one.

& please stop being a bunch of pads and give a fellow guy some advice dont jsut read this post,,, hah
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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alkaline hero said:
I want to know if I should give the first girl a second chance to see if we could hit it off or do you think she's probably made up her mind about me. Dying to get some advice on this one.

Why would she have her mind made up about you?

Next time you see her, start talking about your social life. Parties, bars, etc. Tell her, "You should come with me to (blank). What's your number?" She'll give you her number. Then take it from there.
 

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Thanks for the advice man that sounds pretty damn fine.
 
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