"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Secial Case(asking out through the phone)

loveyou

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to make a long story short:

I met a girl in college in one of my classes. we where in the same group, talk got along fine. Two years have passed since we have spoken with each other. however i was able to her home phone number back then(in case we had questions on homework or something).Know i find myself wanting to ask her out.

how should i approach this situation since i want to ask her out through the phone and i have'nt talked to her in two years? is there any special thing i should do? im sure she will remember me. how should i ask her out and where? i dont want her to think im stalking her.

Thanks. any advice will be greatly appreciated.:up: :box:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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basbhat

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You know what, it's funny, when I was a bit younger(5 years ago) I was thinking about the same thing myself. I met this girl in class, got her #, left the city, came back, and then I called her up 6 months later. Nothing ever came of it.

Honestly, who cares. Are you sure your not desperate? If so, forget it..it won't work out....It's worth a shot for ****s and giggles, if anything to say at least you tried and as a confidence builder. I would not be attached to the result whatsover though! Hope that helps!
 

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just call her. I've done this (once) before, she was shocked that I still had her number, and it just so happened her BF at the time was getting on her nerves.. we went on a couple of dates. they eventually got back together, but I got want I wanted out of the deal :) She was smokin too
 

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nah im not desperate its just that i saw her once and i was like "hmm i should ask her out" but its all cool. maybe ill ask her next time ill see her in person.
 

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backbreaker said:
just call her. I've done this (once) before, she was shocked that I still had her number, and it just so happened her BF at the time was getting on her nerves.. we went on a couple of dates. they eventually got back together, but I got want I wanted out of the deal :) She was smokin too
Your a BEAST. lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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