"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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screw the fundamentals

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Here's what I see happening:

New guy shows up
New guy asks AFC question
New guy gets replies to "read the bible"
New guy reads bible
New guy follows all the rules in the bible
New guy still fails
New guy begins to over-analyze the bible
New guy wonders if he should have waited 4 days to call instead of 3
New guy wonders if his neg-hit was too negative
New guy creates a topic asking more stupid questions
New guy sits in the corner and cries

So what's wrong with this guy? Could it be his technique?

"It can't be! I'm doing everything by the book!"


And there's your problem.

Being a DJ is not about technique. It's not about following rules and conditions. It's not about one-liners or neg-hits or KINO. It's not even about women. It's about you. That's right, being a DJ is all about you, and your self-worth. This is why mindset is so important. In fact, it's the key to everything. I'll repeat that...


Mindset is the key to EVERYTHING

Without mindset, you won't be confident, you won't be ambitious, you won't be motivated, you won't be successful. It's the foundation on which everything else is built.


How do I achieve this mindset?
  • Go to bed earlier
  • Get up earlier
  • Eat healthier
  • Cut your hair
  • Dress nicer
  • Go to the gym
Improve yourself in as many ways as possible. Set goals. When you reach your goals, set new ones. Be optimistic. Get a sense of humor. Get a job. Give yourself something to live for (not women). Persue your interests. Have ambition. Take pride in everything you do. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF!!!!!!

Once you get the mindset, everything else falls into place. A true DJ doesn't "wait" 3 to 6 days to call, he simply calls when he gets the chance. See the difference? He doesn't neg-hit anybody, he just speaks his mind. He doesn't pretend to be something special, he is something special. Remember, not until you truly love yourself will you reach "nirvana."
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A-motherf*cking-men!
 
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definately a sticky if not bible material

clear and to the point

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Sex, popularity, love, it all comes with self improvement.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Sammo
Sex, popularity, love, it all comes with self improvement.
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And thereby, value :)

Just tell them to read my "bible".

(From the beginning to the very end)
 
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I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind. But not this post. This post was sexy, I like it. Don't think your a king, treat yourself like a king.

However... grabyournutscrashandburn-style approaching will teach you JUST as much about yourself as a few hours of meditation. Never surrender the field!
 
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Originally posted by MoAF
I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind. But not this post. This post was sexy, I like it. Don't think your a king, treat yourself like a king.

However... grabyournutscrashandburn-style approaching will teach you JUST as much about yourself as a few hours of meditation. Never surrender the field!
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uhm. mindset posts are the best posts :)
 
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Originally posted by MoAF
I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind.
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....:confused:
 
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Lol, are you trying to tell me when you read "Be A Man" by pook for the first time you went out and approached 100 women? Hah, I didn't think so. You went out and approached because you felt you knew how... because of tecknique posts. And from your experiences you formulated your own mindset, and molded it around Be A Man.

Its true... mindset posts are very rarely applicable to the mind. Sad, really, all these people post and have no understanding of themselves, let alone the masses.

However, this was a great post, lets not ruin it by bickering.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by dbot
New guy wonders if he should have waited 4 days to call instead of 3
New guy wonders if his neg-hit was too negative
New guy creates a topic asking more stupid questions
New guy sits in the corner and cries
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Hahaha!

I see your point bro!
and it's good.
 
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MoAF,

I'm not bickering here. I think mindset posts alone will not do anything for everyone.
But what kind of post alone will?

Mindset combined with technnical(sp?) posts will do wonders.

Reading those technique posts alone and "acting like you have confidence by standing like this and that..." that stuff is sh!t. You will definately crash and burn if that is the way you are going.

Mindset posts are IMO the most important kinds of posts because you will not come off as "faking" anything. Combine these with the techs and you are a pimp!

BTW, this was a fvcking wicked post.

By irony, I think it deserves a spot in the Bible. :D

SuSHI.
 
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Nice post =) It's all about making up your own style. I personally never use neg-hits, because it wouldn't fit in with my regular attitude of being friendly towards everybody.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I was gonna say, I thought I recognized that thread title :D
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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