"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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screw the fundamentals

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Here's what I see happening:

New guy shows up
New guy asks AFC question
New guy gets replies to "read the bible"
New guy reads bible
New guy follows all the rules in the bible
New guy still fails
New guy begins to over-analyze the bible
New guy wonders if he should have waited 4 days to call instead of 3
New guy wonders if his neg-hit was too negative
New guy creates a topic asking more stupid questions
New guy sits in the corner and cries

So what's wrong with this guy? Could it be his technique?

"It can't be! I'm doing everything by the book!"


And there's your problem.

Being a DJ is not about technique. It's not about following rules and conditions. It's not about one-liners or neg-hits or KINO. It's not even about women. It's about you. That's right, being a DJ is all about you, and your self-worth. This is why mindset is so important. In fact, it's the key to everything. I'll repeat that...


Mindset is the key to EVERYTHING

Without mindset, you won't be confident, you won't be ambitious, you won't be motivated, you won't be successful. It's the foundation on which everything else is built.


How do I achieve this mindset?
  • Go to bed earlier
  • Get up earlier
  • Eat healthier
  • Cut your hair
  • Dress nicer
  • Go to the gym
Improve yourself in as many ways as possible. Set goals. When you reach your goals, set new ones. Be optimistic. Get a sense of humor. Get a job. Give yourself something to live for (not women). Persue your interests. Have ambition. Take pride in everything you do. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF!!!!!!

Once you get the mindset, everything else falls into place. A true DJ doesn't "wait" 3 to 6 days to call, he simply calls when he gets the chance. See the difference? He doesn't neg-hit anybody, he just speaks his mind. He doesn't pretend to be something special, he is something special. Remember, not until you truly love yourself will you reach "nirvana."
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A-motherf*cking-men!
 
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definately a sticky if not bible material

clear and to the point

:)
 
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Sex, popularity, love, it all comes with self improvement.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Sammo
Sex, popularity, love, it all comes with self improvement.
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And thereby, value :)

Just tell them to read my "bible".

(From the beginning to the very end)
 
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I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind. But not this post. This post was sexy, I like it. Don't think your a king, treat yourself like a king.

However... grabyournutscrashandburn-style approaching will teach you JUST as much about yourself as a few hours of meditation. Never surrender the field!
 
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Originally posted by MoAF
I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind. But not this post. This post was sexy, I like it. Don't think your a king, treat yourself like a king.

However... grabyournutscrashandburn-style approaching will teach you JUST as much about yourself as a few hours of meditation. Never surrender the field!
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uhm. mindset posts are the best posts :)
 
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Originally posted by MoAF
I hate mindset posts. They are inane and they lack a basic understanding of the human mind.
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....:confused:
 
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Lol, are you trying to tell me when you read "Be A Man" by pook for the first time you went out and approached 100 women? Hah, I didn't think so. You went out and approached because you felt you knew how... because of tecknique posts. And from your experiences you formulated your own mindset, and molded it around Be A Man.

Its true... mindset posts are very rarely applicable to the mind. Sad, really, all these people post and have no understanding of themselves, let alone the masses.

However, this was a great post, lets not ruin it by bickering.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by dbot
New guy wonders if he should have waited 4 days to call instead of 3
New guy wonders if his neg-hit was too negative
New guy creates a topic asking more stupid questions
New guy sits in the corner and cries
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Hahaha!

I see your point bro!
and it's good.
 
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MoAF,

I'm not bickering here. I think mindset posts alone will not do anything for everyone.
But what kind of post alone will?

Mindset combined with technnical(sp?) posts will do wonders.

Reading those technique posts alone and "acting like you have confidence by standing like this and that..." that stuff is sh!t. You will definately crash and burn if that is the way you are going.

Mindset posts are IMO the most important kinds of posts because you will not come off as "faking" anything. Combine these with the techs and you are a pimp!

BTW, this was a fvcking wicked post.

By irony, I think it deserves a spot in the Bible. :D

SuSHI.
 
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Nice post =) It's all about making up your own style. I personally never use neg-hits, because it wouldn't fit in with my regular attitude of being friendly towards everybody.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was gonna say, I thought I recognized that thread title :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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