I really like the way you think man, all about cut the bullsh!t. I've read some of your threads, entertaining to say the least. Te chutes and ladders was golden. You're in the O.C? Next time you're in L.A hit me up, I'll buy you a beer.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
screw the fundamentals
- Thread starter dbot
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a newbie does it by the book once, gets rejected, and then cries, he's missing the point. Becoming a natural at this stuff takes time, years, your whole life even. One of the most important things you can do you improve your interactions with girls is to... *drum roll* meet a lot of them. How is your mind ever going to calibrate itself to girls if you rarely speak to them? How are you ever going to reach a level where talking with women and creating attraction requires no thought, no thinking, all you need are your autopilot responses, if you sit on the side lines and browse forums like these for days at a time?!dbot said:
How does one get better? Practice. Every time you go interact your mind is getting reference experiences. These reference experiences are programming your mind to attract women. Keep truckin', you're getting better every step of the way.
theobserver
Don Juan
Wow. This needs to be put at the end of the bible. I'm new here and i read that bible, but this should be the absolute follow up to it. This yells "inner game" to me in every way possible.
It reminds me of the time when my friend at my boxing gym was saying how he hesitates when he jabs a little bit, and he was so frustrated at it. I told him that he was thinking about it way too much, and that he should take it slow and let it flow naturally.
Conclusions
Just don't think about it so much
Enjoy yourself
HAVE A LIFE
Be in a good mood
amazingly, i find my mood affects the way i speak to people (who would of thought right?)
Fantastic Thread. What's funny was, i thought i'd come in thinking like i'd address my situation/scenario and get feedback, thus helping me achieve my goal, but my questions have been answered already. This is probably the first and last comment you'll ever see me post. (which is why it's so long
)
Have a nice life,
Patrick D.
It reminds me of the time when my friend at my boxing gym was saying how he hesitates when he jabs a little bit, and he was so frustrated at it. I told him that he was thinking about it way too much, and that he should take it slow and let it flow naturally.
Conclusions
Just don't think about it so much
Enjoy yourself
HAVE A LIFE
Be in a good mood
amazingly, i find my mood affects the way i speak to people (who would of thought right?)
Fantastic Thread. What's funny was, i thought i'd come in thinking like i'd address my situation/scenario and get feedback, thus helping me achieve my goal, but my questions have been answered already. This is probably the first and last comment you'll ever see me post. (which is why it's so long
)Have a nice life,
Patrick D.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Thanks man you jus opened my eyes..i had programmed my mind according to the bible and if i missed a step id get stressed..screw the formalities
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LesaneCrooks
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Good post. I took years off from this site because frankly, for many people, it does more harm then good. People get too wrapped up in the formalities and the idea that there is a "right" way to do things with regards to women. Really, this is a myth. There is only one principle involved in getting women, and that is self esteem. All this other crap is just ways of faking self esteem, which can sometimes work but avoids the reality of the situation, which is that newbies, and most SS veterans, have no true confidence in who they are. When your mother said "be yourself" as a kid, she was right on target. It's not her fault you misunderstood that as not having to experience pain and rejection, which is what everyone on this site is attempting to avoid. Put down the keyboard and be a man is what I would tell newbies. Once you understand what that means, you are golden.
dbot, you're great. This site is 99% idiots spouting bull****. Honestly, I can't read majority of the posts on this board without raging a little bit inside. You are the 1% who gets it. I'm extremely grateful I found your threads.