I really like the way you think man, all about cut the bullsh!t. I've read some of your threads, entertaining to say the least. Te chutes and ladders was golden. You're in the O.C? Next time you're in L.A hit me up, I'll buy you a beer.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
screw the fundamentals
- Thread starter dbot
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a newbie does it by the book once, gets rejected, and then cries, he's missing the point. Becoming a natural at this stuff takes time, years, your whole life even. One of the most important things you can do you improve your interactions with girls is to... *drum roll* meet a lot of them. How is your mind ever going to calibrate itself to girls if you rarely speak to them? How are you ever going to reach a level where talking with women and creating attraction requires no thought, no thinking, all you need are your autopilot responses, if you sit on the side lines and browse forums like these for days at a time?!dbot said:
How does one get better? Practice. Every time you go interact your mind is getting reference experiences. These reference experiences are programming your mind to attract women. Keep truckin', you're getting better every step of the way.
theobserver
Don Juan
Wow. This needs to be put at the end of the bible. I'm new here and i read that bible, but this should be the absolute follow up to it. This yells "inner game" to me in every way possible.
It reminds me of the time when my friend at my boxing gym was saying how he hesitates when he jabs a little bit, and he was so frustrated at it. I told him that he was thinking about it way too much, and that he should take it slow and let it flow naturally.
Conclusions
Just don't think about it so much
Enjoy yourself
HAVE A LIFE
Be in a good mood
amazingly, i find my mood affects the way i speak to people (who would of thought right?)
Fantastic Thread. What's funny was, i thought i'd come in thinking like i'd address my situation/scenario and get feedback, thus helping me achieve my goal, but my questions have been answered already. This is probably the first and last comment you'll ever see me post. (which is why it's so long
)
Have a nice life,
Patrick D.
It reminds me of the time when my friend at my boxing gym was saying how he hesitates when he jabs a little bit, and he was so frustrated at it. I told him that he was thinking about it way too much, and that he should take it slow and let it flow naturally.
Conclusions
Just don't think about it so much
Enjoy yourself
HAVE A LIFE
Be in a good mood
amazingly, i find my mood affects the way i speak to people (who would of thought right?)
Fantastic Thread. What's funny was, i thought i'd come in thinking like i'd address my situation/scenario and get feedback, thus helping me achieve my goal, but my questions have been answered already. This is probably the first and last comment you'll ever see me post. (which is why it's so long
)Have a nice life,
Patrick D.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Thanks man you jus opened my eyes..i had programmed my mind according to the bible and if i missed a step id get stressed..screw the formalities
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LesaneCrooks
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Good post. I took years off from this site because frankly, for many people, it does more harm then good. People get too wrapped up in the formalities and the idea that there is a "right" way to do things with regards to women. Really, this is a myth. There is only one principle involved in getting women, and that is self esteem. All this other crap is just ways of faking self esteem, which can sometimes work but avoids the reality of the situation, which is that newbies, and most SS veterans, have no true confidence in who they are. When your mother said "be yourself" as a kid, she was right on target. It's not her fault you misunderstood that as not having to experience pain and rejection, which is what everyone on this site is attempting to avoid. Put down the keyboard and be a man is what I would tell newbies. Once you understand what that means, you are golden.
dbot, you're great. This site is 99% idiots spouting bull****. Honestly, I can't read majority of the posts on this board without raging a little bit inside. You are the 1% who gets it. I'm extremely grateful I found your threads.