What do you do when a girl says "sorry i've been busy" or "sorry I forgot to call" or "sorry I can't talk right now I'm busy but I'll call you later" or something along those lines, when you IM or call her and say how's it going. It's always "sorry" and it makes me want to say something about it. I'm not being AFC I just want to know if there's something ****y funny I could say.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
saying sorry i didn't contact you
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If it happens to often then maybe you should stop calling this girl.
I usually say with a sincere voice: "that's ok I actually went out and ended up having a good time" without being specific. If she likes you then this should send an alarm bells to her head that she better stop acting flakey or else you will continue having a good time without her.
I usually say with a sincere voice: "that's ok I actually went out and ended up having a good time" without being specific. If she likes you then this should send an alarm bells to her head that she better stop acting flakey or else you will continue having a good time without her.
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Strike 1 !
Strike 2 !
BLOCK & DELETE & IGNORE HER ATTEMPTS TO CONTACT YOU - SHE'S OUTTA THERE!
The Muscly Jerk
Strike 2 !
BLOCK & DELETE & IGNORE HER ATTEMPTS TO CONTACT YOU - SHE'S OUTTA THERE!
The Muscly Jerk
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
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The word sorry is just a cheap coup out. Im quite angered if sokebody tells me sorry with nothing behind it, I want an expanation and a guaratee of effort that it wont happen again.
"Sorry", is a piece of ****.
"Sorry", is a piece of ****.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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She is rejecting you and being nice about it!! Very Low interest!
Yeah, she has low interest dude...
If she wanted to talk to you, she'd make time!
I suggest you stop talking to girls on any type of IM.
Go as far as to block them if they do get your screen name.
You don't want her knowing you are sitting behind a PC ALONE!
If she wanted to talk to you, she'd make time!
I suggest you stop talking to girls on any type of IM.
Go as far as to block them if they do get your screen name.
You don't want her knowing you are sitting behind a PC ALONE!
****y and Funny eh?
I love saying this when they say sorry.
Her: "Sorry"
Me: No you're not, you are a liar!
Then talk about whatever and say:
"Playing hard to get eh? Nice"
If that doesn't get a reply or her talking, then just next her, but its worked fine for me.
I love saying this when they say sorry.
Her: "Sorry"
Me: No you're not, you are a liar!
Then talk about whatever and say:
"Playing hard to get eh? Nice"
If that doesn't get a reply or her talking, then just next her, but its worked fine for me.
Ahh the flake. Happens to everyone. Usually I ignore the flake. DON'T call her back if she was supposed to call you...and usually it ends there. If she is supposed to call you to let you know if she can make a date...and doesn't, then the next time you talk to her just say "I don't think this is going to work. We aren't compatible". Either her interest will come up or your finished. Either way it puts an end to the flaking.
Well it's not like she was "supposed" to talk to me or anything, but if I see her on AIM I'll talk to her, and she's all apologetic like she owes me something by not talking to me earlier. I'm pretty sure it's low interest level though, I think I had a shot earlier but lost it. Oh well. I'll just stop contacting her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah I think so man. I had a chick do that to me when I was super AFC. She gave me her # over aim and everything and we talked like 5 or 6 times. I even went to the movies to meet her and she never showed. She apologized to me and she was always initiating conversations with ME. But finally I realized she was just trying to see how far I would go. I hated those days.
Pappadapolis
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You ARE being an AFC. A chick that loves you would never forget to call. You stay on her mind all day. You're all they think about. If you tell them you'll call, they will sit by the phone all weekend to make sure they don't miss your call.rrrrr said:What do you do when a girl says "sorry i've been busy" or "sorry I forgot to call" or "sorry I can't talk right now I'm busy but I'll call you later" or something along those lines, when you IM or call her and say how's it going. It's always "sorry" and it makes me want to say something about it. I'm not being AFC I just want to know if there's something ****y funny I could say.
This chick doesn't care about you dude. You're trying to rationalize her actions. Rationalization is the First Amendment in the AFC constitution.