"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Saying NO to ugly girls

mtlwlu

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I have a hard time letting people down, and theres one girl who Id say is about a 4 and she keeps bugging me to "hang out and see her" etc... I feel guilty always making up excuses but I feel like I lead her on, only because I was nice to her now she must think I have some interest in her. Any simple way of saying "Im not interested" without making her feel bad?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hang out with her. As a friend would.
Be nice and respectful towards her, but do it like a eunuch would. Show absolutely no sexual interest. Maintain 2 1/2 to 3 feet of distance at all times.Act like a woman would to a man she wanted to be just friends with. Try to hook her up with one of your friends.

If she brings it up, be honest. Tell her that there are other ladies in your life, and that you are not interested in finding another one at this time. Tell her you like her though, and would like to be friends with her.
 
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magickarl said:
Hang out with her. As a friend would.
Be nice and respectful towards her, but do it like a eunuch would. Show absolutely no sexual interest. Maintain 2 1/2 to 3 feet of distance at all times.Act like a woman would to a man she wanted to be just friends with. Try to hook her up with one of your friends.

If she brings it up, be honest. Tell her that there are other ladies in your life, and that you are not interested in finding another one at this time. Tell her you like her though, and would like to be friends with her.
Exactly, i couldn't have said any better. Also you can tell her that your friendship is too valuable to risk
 
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don't **** it up

mtlwlu said:
I have a hard time letting people down, and theres one girl who Id say is about a 4 and she keeps bugging me to "hang out and see her" etc... I feel guilty always making up excuses but I feel like I lead her on, only because I was nice to her now she must think I have some interest in her. Any simple way of saying "Im not interested" without making her feel bad?
just be nice, and say you don't want to be with her , because you don't want to have relationship right now (this is just an exemple how to say no , without hurting her feelings),
and also you can have a benefit in this type of situations, be friends with her maybe she haves beautiful girl friends or somethin,
 
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