"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Saying I Love You during sex....bad idea?

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I read somewhere that by saying I love you during sex the girl will think you only love having sex with her, and don't really love her.

Any thoughts on this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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never do it, it is a side of weakness.... its like saying "thank you" after you have nailed her which she would see as desperation. It is like you could not get any booty before and she has just given you what you have been asking god for eternity. thats how i see it
 

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Bud_Fox said:
I read somewhere that by saying I love you during sex the girl will think you only love having sex with her, and don't really love her.

Any thoughts on this?
Nope..unless she's super insecure. Otherwise, saying I love you doesn't hurt. I don't understand why guys make such a big deal about it. It doesn't give away your power to say I love you. You give away your power when you say I love you and act like a pvssy about it.
 

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i think it's bad if that is the first time or only time you say "i love you". but, if you love each other and have been in a relationship for a while. and she has said the words first then it's ok.
 

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I use ILY in the context my partner uses it in.

If she says it whenever she feels it, then so do I.

If she only says it when she is really feeling it intensely, then so do I.

I find this is something that needs to be used like this to avoid entering a scenario where it is said that one person loves another more.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bud_Fox said:
I read somewhere that by saying I love you during sex the girl will think you only love having sex with her, and don't really love her.

Any thoughts on this?
My thought is, why are you saying I Love You during sex?

Tell her afterwards or before or....any other damn time. Use sex time for sex talk. Not emotional talk.
 
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