BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Or am I screwed for life and she will always think of me as a friend? If so, how? HOW DAMNIT!?
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This is a serious thread by the way
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This is a serious thread by the way
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Say I acted liked an AFC with a girl, is there a way to redeem myself?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Pappadapolis
Don Juan
It will never change. Ever. You really need to read the articles and apply the advice as the situation warrants. Your posts have been about trying to un-AFC yourself. The best way to do this is to avoid AFC behaviors to begin with. I can smell your oneitis for this girl. Like I said in the other thread, she is dead to you.
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Aye aye capt'n! And yea I think, despite me, I developped oneitis for her, even though I really did not want too... I still have mucho learning to doPappadapolis said:It will never change. Ever. You really need to read the articles and apply the advice as the situation warrants. Your posts have been about trying to un-AFC yourself. The best way to do this is to avoid AFC behaviors to begin with. I can smell your oneitis for this girl. Like I said in the other thread, she is dead to you.
Anyways you think I should just completly forget about her and stop initiating conversation with her and stuff? If she does, however, how should I react? Be too busy for her always, or eventually give her a shot again?
Pappadapolis
Don Juan
BannedGod said:Aye aye capt'n! And yea I think, despite me, I developped oneitis for her, even though I really did not want too... I still have mucho learning to do
Anyways you think I should just completly forget about her and stop initiating conversation with her and stuff? If she does, however, how should I react? Be too busy for her always, or eventually give her a shot again?
She doesn't deserve another shot because she hasn't earned it. The best way to forget about one girl is to get another.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Yea I guess you are right... But it's hard sometimes to act like that, especially since I'm good friends with a lot of her friends, it might complicate things.Pappadapolis said:She doesn't deserve another shot because she hasn't earned it. The best way to forget about one girl is to get another.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
don't go for girls anymore until you learn how to become happy with yourself. Then, girls will fall at your feet. Women NEED a reason to go after YOU. Don't try to validate yourself for them, make them validate themselves for YOU.
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BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
And how do you suggest I do that? I keep hearing this argument again and again, but it's never really backed upcomic_relief said:don't go for girls anymore until you learn how to become happy with yourself. Then, girls will fall at your feet. Women NEED a reason to go after YOU. Don't try to validate yourself for them, make them validate themselves for YOU.
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Pappadapolis
Don Juan
Don't listen to her problems, don't be available to her when she calls. Don't be afraid to hurt her feelings or piss her off.You have to build a life that defines you, the most common way is hanging with your homeboys. Since she sees you as just an AFC, her friends will too. Girls talk.BannedGod said:And how do you suggest I do that? I keep hearing this argument again and again, but it's never really backed up
NickSCFC2000
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Depends, if it's someone you're still going out with, and perhaps you've been too affectionate or AFC (too many calls, kisses, meetings), why not use this to your advantage?
ALL girls/women WANT an AFC, it's true! The problem is, when they GET one, they go off them and throw them away, it's like they get what they want, and don't need it anymore. So withdraw all the nice stuff, and sooner or later she'll crave for it again. This is where you start the "Treat 'em mean" stuff and have her crawling for you...
well, maybe I'm being TOO optimistic here, but it's often what happens.
PS, good idea on stopping the contact, if you do things right they usually call you after a week or 2 wanting to meet up...
just say "Soz busy this week, how's it goin?" keep it polite but short. Then when you feel you won't go all AFC next time you meet, arrange to meet up and take the game from there.
ALL girls/women WANT an AFC, it's true! The problem is, when they GET one, they go off them and throw them away, it's like they get what they want, and don't need it anymore. So withdraw all the nice stuff, and sooner or later she'll crave for it again. This is where you start the "Treat 'em mean" stuff and have her crawling for you...
well, maybe I'm being TOO optimistic here, but it's often what happens.
PS, good idea on stopping the contact, if you do things right they usually call you after a week or 2 wanting to meet up...
just say "Soz busy this week, how's it goin?" keep it polite but short. Then when you feel you won't go all AFC next time you meet, arrange to meet up and take the game from there.