BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Or am I screwed for life and she will always think of me as a friend? If so, how? HOW DAMNIT!?
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This is a serious thread by the way
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This is a serious thread by the way
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Say I acted liked an AFC with a girl, is there a way to redeem myself?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pappadapolis
Don Juan
It will never change. Ever. You really need to read the articles and apply the advice as the situation warrants. Your posts have been about trying to un-AFC yourself. The best way to do this is to avoid AFC behaviors to begin with. I can smell your oneitis for this girl. Like I said in the other thread, she is dead to you.
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Aye aye capt'n! And yea I think, despite me, I developped oneitis for her, even though I really did not want too... I still have mucho learning to doPappadapolis said:It will never change. Ever. You really need to read the articles and apply the advice as the situation warrants. Your posts have been about trying to un-AFC yourself. The best way to do this is to avoid AFC behaviors to begin with. I can smell your oneitis for this girl. Like I said in the other thread, she is dead to you.
Anyways you think I should just completly forget about her and stop initiating conversation with her and stuff? If she does, however, how should I react? Be too busy for her always, or eventually give her a shot again?
Pappadapolis
Don Juan
BannedGod said:Aye aye capt'n! And yea I think, despite me, I developped oneitis for her, even though I really did not want too... I still have mucho learning to do
Anyways you think I should just completly forget about her and stop initiating conversation with her and stuff? If she does, however, how should I react? Be too busy for her always, or eventually give her a shot again?
She doesn't deserve another shot because she hasn't earned it. The best way to forget about one girl is to get another.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Yea I guess you are right... But it's hard sometimes to act like that, especially since I'm good friends with a lot of her friends, it might complicate things.Pappadapolis said:She doesn't deserve another shot because she hasn't earned it. The best way to forget about one girl is to get another.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
don't go for girls anymore until you learn how to become happy with yourself. Then, girls will fall at your feet. Women NEED a reason to go after YOU. Don't try to validate yourself for them, make them validate themselves for YOU.
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BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
And how do you suggest I do that? I keep hearing this argument again and again, but it's never really backed upcomic_relief said:don't go for girls anymore until you learn how to become happy with yourself. Then, girls will fall at your feet. Women NEED a reason to go after YOU. Don't try to validate yourself for them, make them validate themselves for YOU.
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Pappadapolis
Don Juan
Don't listen to her problems, don't be available to her when she calls. Don't be afraid to hurt her feelings or piss her off.You have to build a life that defines you, the most common way is hanging with your homeboys. Since she sees you as just an AFC, her friends will too. Girls talk.BannedGod said:And how do you suggest I do that? I keep hearing this argument again and again, but it's never really backed up
NickSCFC2000
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Depends, if it's someone you're still going out with, and perhaps you've been too affectionate or AFC (too many calls, kisses, meetings), why not use this to your advantage?
ALL girls/women WANT an AFC, it's true! The problem is, when they GET one, they go off them and throw them away, it's like they get what they want, and don't need it anymore. So withdraw all the nice stuff, and sooner or later she'll crave for it again. This is where you start the "Treat 'em mean" stuff and have her crawling for you...
well, maybe I'm being TOO optimistic here, but it's often what happens.
PS, good idea on stopping the contact, if you do things right they usually call you after a week or 2 wanting to meet up...
just say "Soz busy this week, how's it goin?" keep it polite but short. Then when you feel you won't go all AFC next time you meet, arrange to meet up and take the game from there.
ALL girls/women WANT an AFC, it's true! The problem is, when they GET one, they go off them and throw them away, it's like they get what they want, and don't need it anymore. So withdraw all the nice stuff, and sooner or later she'll crave for it again. This is where you start the "Treat 'em mean" stuff and have her crawling for you...
well, maybe I'm being TOO optimistic here, but it's often what happens.
PS, good idea on stopping the contact, if you do things right they usually call you after a week or 2 wanting to meet up...
just say "Soz busy this week, how's it goin?" keep it polite but short. Then when you feel you won't go all AFC next time you meet, arrange to meet up and take the game from there.