"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sample story of why being an AFC sucks

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I'm probably going to get plenty of "I told you so" comments, but I just want to share my latest story just in case there's some AFC on here who still doubt the DJ ways.

Anyway, in April, I got a date w/ this HB9.8. The girl's gorgeous which is probably why my AFC ways re-emerged. Getting her number & e-mail was simple w/ my DJ ways, b/c I didn't really care whether she gave it to me or not. After the first date, she starts the game playing. She doesn't call me until 2 weeks+ later. I don't know. She just called me out of the blue...I thought I had already NEXT her.

So she gave me the excuse she was busy w/ finals. Being the FCUKING chump that I am, I took it b/c I was busy w/ finals, too. But really, how long does it take to pick up the phone just to say what's up? Yep, see what happens, when you have AFC lens on? Obvious reasoning just doesn't exist.

I gave this girl another chance, but I pretty much didn't talk to her or cut our phone conversations to 5-10 mins. After our second date, I went back to being AFC again. Damn I'm pretty good when I don't see the girl. AFCness jumps in again when I do get to see her. She started calling me all the time and everyday...wanting to go out. Then I kept refusing to go out with her...I was busy...not that I didn't want to go out w/ her...FCUKING AFC! So I'm thinking this girl really likes me. Then, I start calling back to match in tune w/ hers. You know the outcome...she just disappears again!

There goes my latest story. May other AFCs learn from this. DJs keep doing what you're doing!:woo:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she's an attention *****. she just called you back because she wanted attention when u fed it to her she vanished, probably found another afc to play her games with.
 

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i dont understand this one:

"Then I kept refusing to go out with her...I was busy...not that I didn't want to go out w/ her...FCUKING AFC! "
 

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Girl pretty much kept asking me to go out w/ her, but I was too busy. It's not that I didn't want to go out with her. You know how when you don't go out w/ some people...it's either you're busy or you just plain don't want to go out with them? That's what I mean. When she kept pursuing me, I started to MAKE time for her (big mistake).:eek:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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