"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sample story of why being an AFC sucks

xectxny19x

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I'm probably going to get plenty of "I told you so" comments, but I just want to share my latest story just in case there's some AFC on here who still doubt the DJ ways.

Anyway, in April, I got a date w/ this HB9.8. The girl's gorgeous which is probably why my AFC ways re-emerged. Getting her number & e-mail was simple w/ my DJ ways, b/c I didn't really care whether she gave it to me or not. After the first date, she starts the game playing. She doesn't call me until 2 weeks+ later. I don't know. She just called me out of the blue...I thought I had already NEXT her.

So she gave me the excuse she was busy w/ finals. Being the FCUKING chump that I am, I took it b/c I was busy w/ finals, too. But really, how long does it take to pick up the phone just to say what's up? Yep, see what happens, when you have AFC lens on? Obvious reasoning just doesn't exist.

I gave this girl another chance, but I pretty much didn't talk to her or cut our phone conversations to 5-10 mins. After our second date, I went back to being AFC again. Damn I'm pretty good when I don't see the girl. AFCness jumps in again when I do get to see her. She started calling me all the time and everyday...wanting to go out. Then I kept refusing to go out with her...I was busy...not that I didn't want to go out w/ her...FCUKING AFC! So I'm thinking this girl really likes me. Then, I start calling back to match in tune w/ hers. You know the outcome...she just disappears again!

There goes my latest story. May other AFCs learn from this. DJs keep doing what you're doing!:woo:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sayajin_Prince

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she's an attention *****. she just called you back because she wanted attention when u fed it to her she vanished, probably found another afc to play her games with.
 

sux2bu

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i dont understand this one:

"Then I kept refusing to go out with her...I was busy...not that I didn't want to go out w/ her...FCUKING AFC! "
 

xectxny19x

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Girl pretty much kept asking me to go out w/ her, but I was too busy. It's not that I didn't want to go out with her. You know how when you don't go out w/ some people...it's either you're busy or you just plain don't want to go out with them? That's what I mean. When she kept pursuing me, I started to MAKE time for her (big mistake).:eek:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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