"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Hey Taiyuu, the "throw mud at a wall" hiring model of sales companies is the SOP for every insurance company who employs an agency distribution model. They've been doing it for 100 years. I spent the last year (until a month ago) at a large insurance company, I was attracted by their efforts to move towards a financial planning model. If you are going to sell insurance, do NOT go with a MA or other "contracting" type of agency; the overrides within a company are bad enough. What I'm saying is, always eliminate the middle man where you can.

Man, insurance and fin serv is the hardest sales gig to thrive under. Most of them are 100% commission, and at the end of the day you are selling something nobody wants to buy. My hat's off to the folks who make MDRT, that business is tough as nails. It's an all-or-nothing business; you can work 80 hours a week and not make a dollar, or you can make 5 grand in two days. The real money in insurance is selling annuities to retiring folks, but then you are competing with the dedicated financial planning companies and the bank advisors, who sit in an office and sell annuities like shooting layups at the gym.

I don't begrudge my experience in insurance at all, it was a tremendous education in sales. But it is one that I paid for with much suffering and hardship, I'm glad it's behind me.

I'm now going after a gig selling television airtime to ad agencies and businesses, I've taken serious initiative to get this job and hope it comes through. It comes with a very nice base (what a concept!) and fat commission schedule. But I had to pay my dues at the insurance company and my other outside sales gigs to get this far.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am a natural born salesman. I don't think there has ever been anyone born to do anything more than I was born to sale ****. i can and have sold pretty much anything from computers, to cars, to complex 5 figure websites.

At the pinncale of my web development company, i probably dealt with 20 clients a week and would sale 6-8 of them websites that ranged from 2 to 15 thousand dollars. Really good money if you hone your skill set, are patient, and willing to take some lumps to learn what you are doing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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