"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Hey Taiyuu, the "throw mud at a wall" hiring model of sales companies is the SOP for every insurance company who employs an agency distribution model. They've been doing it for 100 years. I spent the last year (until a month ago) at a large insurance company, I was attracted by their efforts to move towards a financial planning model. If you are going to sell insurance, do NOT go with a MA or other "contracting" type of agency; the overrides within a company are bad enough. What I'm saying is, always eliminate the middle man where you can.

Man, insurance and fin serv is the hardest sales gig to thrive under. Most of them are 100% commission, and at the end of the day you are selling something nobody wants to buy. My hat's off to the folks who make MDRT, that business is tough as nails. It's an all-or-nothing business; you can work 80 hours a week and not make a dollar, or you can make 5 grand in two days. The real money in insurance is selling annuities to retiring folks, but then you are competing with the dedicated financial planning companies and the bank advisors, who sit in an office and sell annuities like shooting layups at the gym.

I don't begrudge my experience in insurance at all, it was a tremendous education in sales. But it is one that I paid for with much suffering and hardship, I'm glad it's behind me.

I'm now going after a gig selling television airtime to ad agencies and businesses, I've taken serious initiative to get this job and hope it comes through. It comes with a very nice base (what a concept!) and fat commission schedule. But I had to pay my dues at the insurance company and my other outside sales gigs to get this far.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backbreaker

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I am a natural born salesman. I don't think there has ever been anyone born to do anything more than I was born to sale ****. i can and have sold pretty much anything from computers, to cars, to complex 5 figure websites.

At the pinncale of my web development company, i probably dealt with 20 clients a week and would sale 6-8 of them websites that ranged from 2 to 15 thousand dollars. Really good money if you hone your skill set, are patient, and willing to take some lumps to learn what you are doing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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