"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rule regarding timing of texts?

The LadyKiller

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A couple of nights ago, I sent a C&F text to a HB I'm getting to know (around 11pm, when most people in their early/mid 20s are still awake). I woke up the following day to see she responded with her own C&F comment - which came in at 5:00 in the morning. Because there is a timestamp on our texts, I poked fun at her regarding the timing of the text. Her story was that she was up early for a flight.

Blame this on my naivety of text game, but is this normal behavior? While she may have simply seen it then and responded accordingly, one of my buds says that his wife works odd hours, but she's not sending texts that late/early to just anyone. Years ago, a girl I went to college with responded to a joke I made at 4am, and we eventually dated for a couple of months. Is there any correlation between odd-timed texts and significance? (and I don't mean obvious things like drunk dials or booty calls).

This HB recently got out of a lengthy relationship and I have a few other plates, so while I have things going on, this caught my attention. I figured I'd post it here to see what you all thought.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mikey2012

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Why do you care what time the text came in?
Maybe she just finished banging some dude.
If you are already invested so much at this early stage then you are going have the rough ride...
 

Meisterman

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I don't think you should have mentioned it to her. It just shows that you care about these things and/or pay attention to them. When really you shouldn't give two fu*ks about it or invest an ounce of energy wondering why she sent it at that time.
 

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I think if she's replying at 4am etc, it does show that she's interested.
However, it's not like you can take that interest to the bank and cash it in....
 

The LadyKiller

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Thanks for the responses to clear that up. I was curious about the text-timing as a whole and if it carried any significance, but I can't and won't take the results to heart. More of an observation than anything - though the suggestion she could be interested is clearly a good thing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mikey2012

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Like I said she could have just finished suking some guys covk. Maybe she's being polite ... Wouldn't read too much into it..
 

Rainman4707

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Yeah I wouldn't let I worry you. I work nightshift & I don't send women messages in unsociable hours. The way is see it is I want her to receive text when she's feeling good. Sending her one at 3am might piss her off.
 

The LadyKiller

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
5am is not the typical ****sucking time....
Hahaha, well put. HB was visiting family in her hometown, so unless there's some odd family relations going on, she wasn't getting down.
 
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