"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I've stuck to my guns-Still no junk food. The only concession I've made is to eat some chocolate flavored protein bars. It's getting easier to pass up donuts and candies. I went to a meeting, and on each table they had put out a bunch of Snickers bars. I was totally hungry, but I held out.
I had my first Karate workout in 7 months yesterday. I felt totally rusty, but at least I'm moving with a Gi on again.
Been lifting a lot more : Mostly kettlebell stuff and bench presses along with pullups.
I'm doing hill sprints. There's a long hill close to my house and I did 5 uphill sprints. My body was heaving afterwards, but it felt good too.
179 today, but my pants are now looser.
Went to karate workout yesterday. Lifting and bagwork in a few hours. Karate again tomorrow. Knee is slowly getting stronger.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Still working out quite a bit in either Karate class or cardio kickboxing at the gym. My cardio shape is great...Again, just need to lose the fat around the middle.
After being given the OK to train again, I went to cardio kickboxing yesterday and my Karate workout today.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
a) weight naturally fluctuates throughout the day, due to fluid intake, about of food ingested, etc. If you do weigh yourself, it should be first thing in the morning right when you get up. I would do it once every 2-3 weeks MAX.
b) piggybacking on point a. Your weight is irrelevant, ESPECIALLY when your trying to drop body fat and put on muscle. Your body COMPOSITION is much more important. Measure inches; waist, chest, neck, thighs, arms, calves etc to see if your making progress. Lastly, definitely get your body fat taken every 10-14 days like clock-work.
I've never understood why the average joe is obsessed with seeing a number on a scale when their body composition is much more important. If you hit 160-165 and have no muscle on you, you'll look like a concentration camp victim at your height. Okay not completely, but close.
c) Your diet sucks.... sorry its the truth and I'm being honest to help you. Severely lacking in quality protein, lacking in good fats and to top it off you have no idea how many total calories your intaking.
Add to the fact that you seem to have weak will power, then punish your body by not eating for the rest of the day once you have a cookie or something you perceive as bad.
When your cutting if your diet is 95% in check and your consistent, a cookie here and there will not kill your diet. And the whole starving yourself routine is very catabolic to muscle mass and slowsssss down your metabolism.
d) As Fugly pointed out, you should get your diet in check. Look into carb cycling, re-feed days and get to it.
Sorry if this post came off as arse-wholish, I'm all about putting 100% effort toward your goal and you seem like your a good guy with the right intentions, but your half-arsssing it expecting different results. Not gonna happen.
You have made a journal, you want to do this in your mind, but you are weak willed right now.
Part of weak will comes from not planning out your diet. When you don't plan your diet, its a lot easier to make a bad choice.
PIMP
No offense taken. I agree that one shouldn't obsess over bodyweight, but it's relevent in my case because I want to fight as a middleweight (160 lbs.) not as a small heavyweight. So the scale matters.Pimp-sicle said:One: Weighing yourself every couple days is absolutely pointless.
a) weight naturally fluctuates throughout the day, due to fluid intake, about of food ingested, etc. If you do weigh yourself, it should be first thing in the morning right when you get up. I would do it once every 2-3 weeks MAX.
b) piggybacking on point a. Your weight is irrelevant, ESPECIALLY when your trying to drop body fat and put on muscle. Your body COMPOSITION is much more important. Measure inches; waist, chest, neck, thighs, arms, calves etc to see if your making progress. Lastly, definitely get your body fat taken every 10-14 days like clock-work.
I've never understood why the average joe is obsessed with seeing a number on a scale when their body composition is much more important. If you hit 160-165 and have no muscle on you, you'll look like a concentration camp victim at your height. Okay not completely, but close.
c) Your diet sucks.... sorry its the truth and I'm being honest to help you. Severely lacking in quality protein, lacking in good fats and to top it off you have no idea how many total calories your intaking.
Add to the fact that you seem to have weak will power, then punish your body by not eating for the rest of the day once you have a cookie or something you perceive as bad.
When your cutting if your diet is 95% in check and your consistent, a cookie here and there will not kill your diet. And the whole starving yourself routine is very catabolic to muscle mass and slowsssss down your metabolism.
d) As Fugly pointed out, you should get your diet in check. Look into carb cycling, re-feed days and get to it.
Sorry if this post came off as arse-wholish, I'm all about putting 100% effort toward your goal and you seem like your a good guy with the right intentions, but your half-arsssing it expecting different results. Not gonna happen.
You have made a journal, you want to do this in your mind, but you are weak willed right now.
Part of weak will comes from not planning out your diet. When you don't plan your diet, its a lot easier to make a bad choice.
PIMP
On a related matter, I might fight in the April tournament as opposed to October because of how my knee feels. I just don't see it being 100 % by early Oct. Nevertheless, I want to keep training at the same pace regardless.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've been working out on a regular basis. My diet has generally been good, although I have not been burning enough calories because I took a break from my boxing/cardio kickboxing gym because my knee has been acting up. I have been doing my regular Karate workouts at the dojo on a regular basis.
One thing I have increased is my weight training. I have muscles popping out everywhere now, and I get alot of compliments from women on my arms and chest.
I laid out alot by the pool this past Summer and I became very dark. I know it's terrible for my skin (I'm half Irish too), but I have to admit that a dark tan looks really good on me. I didn't however, let my face get as much Sun as my body.
I injured it somehow dancing at a club a few weeks back.....not ACL related, it just feels like there's some slight tendon damage....walking around is fine, but just going into a slight sqaut causes pain...
I did some heavy sparring last night and am now feeling a bruised rib....
October tourney is out...no way I'll be 100, or even 80 % for that....still will keep training however, despite the pops/pings occurring
Lifting is going good....
Broke my word....Different girls took me out for birthday dinners and I didn't feel like going low carb....or turning down cake.
Still gaining muscle and attending classes at the dojo.
Knee feels better than it did a few weeks ago.
I've been trying to improve my flexibility. Every day I lie on my back on the floor and put my legs up on the wall....
I slowly start to allow gravity to pull my legs apart and downward in a splits.
IT HURTS, but I'm seeing improvement.
I listen to the stereo as I do this and try to put up with the pain for the duration of the song I'm listening to.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.