MountainSlide
Master Don Juan
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- Jun 17, 2014
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The problem is how people conceptualize themselves. You can have a hot girl that’s insecure. You can have an unattractive guy that has all the confidence in the world. And this shyt makes a difference! At the end of the day your smv is determined by how you perceive yourself, you project it outward, and the world will project it back onto you. Transactional relationships only exist for weak men trying to compensate.Really it comes down to a woman’s character. Thing is relatively few women have character. So the sorts of generalizations can be widely applied...but not universally applied.
There are women who will keep their word and those who honor their commitments even in the face of great temptation. Those women are rare however and have value. Therefore finding a single woman with this trait is tough. The vast majority are taken (and often by top tier men.)
For unattached women I’d say the spirit of what Rollo is saying is true. Each of us (male or female) seeks the best option from the choices available to him or her. Some people enjoy greater selection or abundance, some have less.
The real issue in part is when one party in the relationship sacrifices standards for a partner who is in another league in some way. The higher value partner is going to feel they are missing out at some point and the temptation to explore other options may become too great.
If people choose partners who are truly into them, the chances for loyalty go up. People do best when partnered with someone on their same level as a package deal.
Transactional partnerships are exchange based (like the classic exchange of a woman’s beauty in exchange for a man’s money or resources) and if there isn’t actual genuine attraction both parties are eventually going to feel dissatisfied.
You cannot negotiate desire. You can fail to maintain it over time...but that’s another conversation. Desire must exist or there WILL be problems in the relationship such as cheating.