Okay to be a good challenge, do never contact her and hope she always does? Or do you just contact her every once in awhile. A lot of guys I know that are pimps say you got to do a lot of work though(like calling her up and hanging out a lot. So how should u do it.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Right way to be a challenge
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Once by mistake I got this super hot virgin girl because she thought I was challenging.
My friend liked her so we always went to Starbucks as a group (she had her fine blond friends)
I did not try to hollar or give the slightest hint that I am interested so my friend can try to win her over. SHe is an HB8, a lot of guys where trying to get with her.
Magically she hooked up with me after we talked every week for a month over their. She broke up with her BF and she was always interested in my stories, and I had exciting real stories.
I don't even know what I did or how she found me challeging, but I took her virginity
When I had deep conversations with her, she told me that I was harder to get. ect. A lot of this stuff works because she was refering to stuff I did naturally and I noticed it on this site also.
Also I am an ugly mother ****er
My friend liked her so we always went to Starbucks as a group (she had her fine blond friends)
I did not try to hollar or give the slightest hint that I am interested so my friend can try to win her over. SHe is an HB8, a lot of guys where trying to get with her.
Magically she hooked up with me after we talked every week for a month over their. She broke up with her BF and she was always interested in my stories, and I had exciting real stories.
I don't even know what I did or how she found me challeging, but I took her virginity
When I had deep conversations with her, she told me that I was harder to get. ect. A lot of this stuff works because she was refering to stuff I did naturally and I noticed it on this site also.
Also I am an ugly mother ****er
JackPrescott
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This is a tough one. Some women really respond to being "ignored" Others will move on to men paying them attention. I guess the key is moderation. If you like a woman a lot, and want to ask her out, hook up, ect, a call once a week is good. But the bottom line fact, is if she has your number, and doesnt use it, she isnt that interested.
Leah
Don Juan
If a man doesn't contact me I start chasing. As long as he responds favourably to my contacts I'll keep it up. As soon as I get the feeling he doesn't like me I stop. It's always good to contact her maybe once for every 3 or 4 times she contacts you. Unkless she's a psycho freak and calls you every ten minutes of course in which case change your number.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
Who says there's a right way?
I spent a lot of time trying to figure out the "right way" to handle things with the opposite sex. And you know what? I still can't figure it out. Just when I think I've nailed down what works and what doesn't, I see somebody who acts opposite what I thought worked, and that works too. Or I see somebody who should have, by all rights, succeeded, get shot out of the air. I wish I could tell you something like "wait X days, then call her up, use Y routine, and NEXT her if she doesn't respond", but I don't think it really works like that. Still, here's some GENERAL advice.
Work on turning yourself into the sort of person who's always doing something fun. Spend time at fun outings, parties, whatever, building your socializing skills. Don't drop whatever you're doing just to spend time with her, and make sure she knows it. Don't worry so much about this one girl. Learn to flirt with other girls. Try one of the newbie missions here or in the fastseduction.com archives. That way, even if things fall through with her, you've still got other options. Beyond that, you're on your own. Good luck, we're all pulling for 'ya.
I spent a lot of time trying to figure out the "right way" to handle things with the opposite sex. And you know what? I still can't figure it out. Just when I think I've nailed down what works and what doesn't, I see somebody who acts opposite what I thought worked, and that works too. Or I see somebody who should have, by all rights, succeeded, get shot out of the air. I wish I could tell you something like "wait X days, then call her up, use Y routine, and NEXT her if she doesn't respond", but I don't think it really works like that. Still, here's some GENERAL advice.
Work on turning yourself into the sort of person who's always doing something fun. Spend time at fun outings, parties, whatever, building your socializing skills. Don't drop whatever you're doing just to spend time with her, and make sure she knows it. Don't worry so much about this one girl. Learn to flirt with other girls. Try one of the newbie missions here or in the fastseduction.com archives. That way, even if things fall through with her, you've still got other options. Beyond that, you're on your own. Good luck, we're all pulling for 'ya.
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
You should take the lead with contacting her, setting the dates, making the moves, etc. The idea is to make things happen on your terms. Your schedule should already be busy with your hobbies, job, school, friends, other girls, etc. You shouldn't have the TIME to see her or talk to her every day - and she should know this. She should feel like she's competing for your time, and she should be happy when you offer to fit her in your busy life.