"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Right way to be a challenge

bud_2005

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Okay to be a good challenge, do never contact her and hope she always does? Or do you just contact her every once in awhile. A lot of guys I know that are pimps say you got to do a lot of work though(like calling her up and hanging out a lot. So how should u do it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hurrican

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Once by mistake I got this super hot virgin girl because she thought I was challenging.


My friend liked her so we always went to Starbucks as a group (she had her fine blond friends)

I did not try to hollar or give the slightest hint that I am interested so my friend can try to win her over. SHe is an HB8, a lot of guys where trying to get with her.

Magically she hooked up with me after we talked every week for a month over their. She broke up with her BF and she was always interested in my stories, and I had exciting real stories.

I don't even know what I did or how she found me challeging, but I took her virginity:)


When I had deep conversations with her, she told me that I was harder to get. ect. A lot of this stuff works because she was refering to stuff I did naturally and I noticed it on this site also.

Also I am an ugly mother ****er
 

JackPrescott

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This is a tough one. Some women really respond to being "ignored" Others will move on to men paying them attention. I guess the key is moderation. If you like a woman a lot, and want to ask her out, hook up, ect, a call once a week is good. But the bottom line fact, is if she has your number, and doesnt use it, she isnt that interested.
 

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If a man doesn't contact me I start chasing. As long as he responds favourably to my contacts I'll keep it up. As soon as I get the feeling he doesn't like me I stop. It's always good to contact her maybe once for every 3 or 4 times she contacts you. Unkless she's a psycho freak and calls you every ten minutes of course in which case change your number.
 

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I need to know what is the right way. A lot of guys tell me you have to hang out with her like every day or at least talk on the phone. But how can you be a challenge if you are with her every day?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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abcd_z

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Who says there's a right way?
I spent a lot of time trying to figure out the "right way" to handle things with the opposite sex. And you know what? I still can't figure it out. Just when I think I've nailed down what works and what doesn't, I see somebody who acts opposite what I thought worked, and that works too. Or I see somebody who should have, by all rights, succeeded, get shot out of the air. I wish I could tell you something like "wait X days, then call her up, use Y routine, and NEXT her if she doesn't respond", but I don't think it really works like that. Still, here's some GENERAL advice.

Work on turning yourself into the sort of person who's always doing something fun. Spend time at fun outings, parties, whatever, building your socializing skills. Don't drop whatever you're doing just to spend time with her, and make sure she knows it. Don't worry so much about this one girl. Learn to flirt with other girls. Try one of the newbie missions here or in the fastseduction.com archives. That way, even if things fall through with her, you've still got other options. Beyond that, you're on your own. Good luck, we're all pulling for 'ya.
 

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You should take the lead with contacting her, setting the dates, making the moves, etc. The idea is to make things happen on your terms. Your schedule should already be busy with your hobbies, job, school, friends, other girls, etc. You shouldn't have the TIME to see her or talk to her every day - and she should know this. She should feel like she's competing for your time, and she should be happy when you offer to fit her in your busy life.
 
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