"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have formally decided there is nothing wrong with oneitis:trouble:
It's good, it shows that you can care deeply for something ,right? [unless its obsession then its just sad]
So please don't tell to me to move on when I ask....
Is it wrong to try and get a gf and bf to split up by lets say...sleeping with the girl?
or her willingly choosing to dump him for you?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's bad because it shows that shes the only girl you are capable of getting, thus lowering your overall value. Think of it like this, who would she rather be with, a guy who all the girls want, or you, the guy that is devoted to her. Besides what would you rather do? waste your time with 1 chick or be able to get with any number of chicks. It's kind of a slippery slope effect, but in a good way. The more girls you can get with, the more girls that will be availible as this raises your value.
 
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I like her a lot...I don't have any problems getting girls but then again I don't get more than the average guy, because I don't want to. Getting girls left right and centre doesn't appeal to me for some reason.But yeah I like the girl so mmuch its not even funny anymore
 

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just realize that as pessimistic as this sounds, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak, possibly. High school relationships rarely last long. I learned the hard way
 

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Thing is, now I have no idea who to game...

Got rid of oneitus for good, now I thing my standars are too high :S
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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to answer your original question, no theres nothing wrong with that. unless the guy gets really pissed and wants to kick your ass, but other than that, go for it
 

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Women want a guy with confidence and a guy who posses a challenge for them. Key word: CHALLENGE.There is no challenge if you are so easy to get, and most guys who have oneitis for a girl make themselves easy to get since they come on strong too soon. It turns them off.

Think about it. Would you HONESTLY go out with a girl who is so easy to get? Most people like to work hard for what they get. In short, it's normal to have oneitis for a girl, but you need to be careful of how you handle it.
 

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Does this challenge stuff really work in HS?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It works in and out of HS, it's a concept you will take with you forever.
Who does not want a challenge? No girl wants to go out with the easy guy, she will lose interest really fast. She wants to know she worked hard for what she got, so she's going to try her best to hold onto you, because she will remember all the effort she had to make to get you.

You tend to appreciate things when you work hard for them. That applies to HS for sure.
 
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