Bokanovsky
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I see. Yes, I misunderstood. So you're going go move to her muslim country??
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ridiculous mother in law passport bro drama
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
We will see. Thats the plan but you know how life works. Murphys Law
Bokanovsky
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Stay safe, my friend.
Thank you . I know what I am doing is nuts. I am willing to gamble. I have a feeling it will work out. Or not. Either way I will keep yall posted.
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It sounds like you’re in her frame—living in her city, surrounded by her friends, family, culture, and her needs. There are also numerous logistical challenges and cultural pressures at play. Maybe it is time to step up as a leader, take control, and guide things in a way that balances both your needs and the circumstances you're facing.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Well I suspect its his cousin and knowing my straightforward attitude I think he avoids me as the plague right now.. it's oke tho.
He brought her here. Its a 180 from never having any woman and living at home at 35 to living together in a marriage. I don't say it can't work, but...I do have my opinion on whether a man without any game going all in like this is a good or a bad idea...
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I'm guessing this doesn't turn out the way you think it will in the end.
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Elaborate please bro
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You are doing a whole lot for "maybe's" and "we'll see's"
Thats life though. Everything is a maybe and well see when dealing with women.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The 75% divorce rate did not turn out the way they wanted in the end. Aint no good scenerios. Atleast I have a fighting chance.
If I stay in the West im done for sure.
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Then only a fool would be spending thousands of dollars travelling all over and not having any solid plans of what the future will end up being if you are that unsure.
Lol ok then im a fool. Im not going to go into elaborate details on the internet. Why you so aggressive?