"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rich guys and no gf at 27 or older come on

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lol readin some of the members posts the wealth successful ones woow i wonder. i mean if u have money and a great job i really think any women would want u. well that what my mom said, ah don;t care about gurls right now just focus on ur studies , get a great job and loads of money and any girl would want u. not sure if its a cultural thing -we are chinese.
but i think since the guy and gal go out the guy pays mostly right and if he can spoil her she would like him even more, don;t tell me nice dinners, nice clothes,.... nice things women or even ppl don;'t like come on.
the guys who got money and great jobs are just plain social indept and got no game. come on bmw drving around no gal going go crazy come on and on top of it ur handsome too. man it just a bunch a crap
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by joe45
lol readin some of the members posts the wealth successful ones woow i wonder. i mean if u have money and a great job i really think any women would want u. well that what my mom said, ah don;t care about gurls right now just focus on ur studies , get a great job and loads of money and any girl would want u. not sure if its a cultural thing -we are chinese.
but i think since the guy and gal go out the guy pays mostly right and if he can spoil her she would like him even more, don;t tell me nice dinners, nice clothes,.... nice things women or even ppl don;'t like come on.
the guys who got money and great jobs are just plain social indept and got no game. come on bmw drving around no gal going go crazy come on and on top of it ur handsome too. man it just a bunch a crap
What on earth are you trying to say here? You sound like the socially "inept" (not indept) one.
 

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just sayin with the posts i read from other members who describe themselves as rich, well paying jobs and successful and at the same time havin problems finding a gf or date to me is a load of crap.
 

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Originally posted by joe45
i mean if u have money and a great job i really think any women would want u. well thats what my mom said,... don;t care about gurls right now just focus on ur studies , get a great job and loads of money and any girl would want u.
While I generally wouldn't say "You should really listen to your momma", you seriously do need to focus on your studies if you're 24 and still lacking so seriously in the English department that you can't even express yourself in a manner others can comprehend. I can only imagine how you must come across to girls.
no gal going go crazy come on and on top of it
Right. What he said.

:rolleyes:

Oh, and as a rebuttal to your chain of logic: You're absolutely right. These wealthy, successful guys you speak of have nothing better to do than come onto an internet forum and lie to us about how they aren't doing as well with the opposite sex as they would like to. I'm sure that makes sense somehow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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